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timeasmymeasureSo how do you make friends on Dreamwidth?
I ask because the question occurred to me earlier today as I went on the hunt for some new folks to subscribe to. Dreamwidth has a unique "friending" system, where you can subscribe to a journal without granting access to more personal posts (or whatever you have on filters). The thing about this is, when subscribing to a journal I feel like I have to hit 'grant access' as well because that's the only way they'll know who I am/what kind of posts I write. My public posts aren't really "windows to my soul" or whatever and the stuff I have under the access filter is more of who I am from day to day. As such, I feel that I have to expose myself for a week or two, before deciding to either withdraw the access or allow it to continue.
So how do you do it Circle? Do you subscribe first, then grant access after getting to know a person? Do you subscribe and grant access all at once, and if so what's your thought process?
ETA: Do you always check out/subscribe to the journals that subscribe to you (at least at first)?
I ask because the question occurred to me earlier today as I went on the hunt for some new folks to subscribe to. Dreamwidth has a unique "friending" system, where you can subscribe to a journal without granting access to more personal posts (or whatever you have on filters). The thing about this is, when subscribing to a journal I feel like I have to hit 'grant access' as well because that's the only way they'll know who I am/what kind of posts I write. My public posts aren't really "windows to my soul" or whatever and the stuff I have under the access filter is more of who I am from day to day. As such, I feel that I have to expose myself for a week or two, before deciding to either withdraw the access or allow it to continue.
So how do you do it Circle? Do you subscribe first, then grant access after getting to know a person? Do you subscribe and grant access all at once, and if so what's your thought process?
ETA: Do you always check out/subscribe to the journals that subscribe to you (at least at first)?
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Date: 2013-10-20 01:16 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-10-20 01:51 am (UTC)Which leads to the question you don't have to answer, do you always check out the journals that subscribe to you?
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Date: 2013-10-20 10:42 am (UTC)Nearly always.
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Date: 2013-10-20 01:57 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-10-21 02:24 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-10-20 02:34 am (UTC)And yes, I do check out the journals that subscribe to me. Correction: I don't always subscribe back, eg. when the DW seems abandoned or is a non-personal DW (RP accounts, etc).
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Date: 2013-10-21 02:26 am (UTC)Yeah, I wonder about that too; I never figured out why empty journals subscribe to me, especially since most of my fannish stuff (icons, fic, etc) can be found on different comms and journals.
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Date: 2013-10-20 09:33 am (UTC)I don't always subscribe/grant access to those who do it to me; not everyone posts the same level of personal/private things, & also just b/c someone thinks they have something in common w/me doesn't guarantee I will find their journal interesting/feel like they are safe/etc.
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Date: 2013-10-21 02:28 am (UTC)Ditto on the network clicking.
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Date: 2013-10-21 02:27 am (UTC)I sometimes do keyword searches or spend some time on the recently posted page, looking for interesting people. I also have added folks who make interesting/insightful/etc comments on the accounts of people I subscribe to. Sometimes I just quietly subscribe, sometimes I leave a note. It depends on the feeling I get from their posts/persona.
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Date: 2013-10-21 02:31 am (UTC)*nods* If I'm not feeling too awkward about it, I will subscribe to someone whose comment I find interesting. I usually try to interact with them first though, even if it's just a "I agree!" sort of comment; I am very awkward about these sort of interactions so this doesn't always happen as much as I want it to.
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Date: 2013-10-21 02:35 am (UTC)