I’m a Therapist, and These Are the Self-Care Gifts I Love Giving

Osea Vagus Nerve Oil ($48)

Our minds speak to our bodies and our bodies speak right back to our minds. As a therapist, I help people with vagus nerve stimulation, which is known to activate the body's relaxation response and help regulate stress. When you can't solve your emotions in the moment, it helps to have a little extra support. If you're looking for a natural, on-the-fly way to manage stress, I highly recommend giving oil a try. Some aromatherapy scents can help activate the vagus nerve, and this blend of chamomile, lavender, and juniper is especially soothing; it's like pocket tranquility.

Aire Ancient Bath 60 Minute Nightfall Bath ($146)

This experience can only be described only as otherworldly — the first time I went to Aire I forgot that I even lived in New York City. If you have a friend that needs a getaway but can't really get away, this is for them: 60 minutes of thermal baths in a no phone, entirely candlelit, architecturally stunning bathhouse. The baths are filled with mineral-rich waters, and the whole experience is the perfect way to unwind, de-stress, and recharge. If your giftee doesn't live near an Aire location, you can look up a spa with a thermal bath experience near them instead.

Pyvot Weighted Focus Vest ($245)

I was gifted this jacket last year and there are days that I literally don't take it off. Weighted technology is a huge support for us anxious folk, promoting a sense of calm and groundedness when we just can't take the edge off on our own. I like this vest more than a weighted blanket, because I can take my anxiety support on the go and the people around me are none the wiser.

Intelligent Change Mindful Affirmations ($25)

I love mental health but if you know me you know I love a beautiful home too, so when I discovered this combo, I was thrilled. Shifting our thoughts is one of the hardest things we can do, and most of us need a constant reminder when we're trying to rewire our brains. These coffee table mindfulness affirmation cards are like little reminders of effective rethinking scattered around your home, and are perfect for the days when you need a little motivation or a dose of self-love. I love the Health and the Valeria Lipovetsky versions most, also available on Intelligent Change. Beechwood stand included.

Quiet Your Mind, Busy Your Hands Adult Coloring Book ($39)

We all pretty desperately need a respite from our screens. Cameron Roger's new journal and coloring book foster mindfulness, self-awareness, and emotional release — and it forces a much-needed break from anything related to a screen. Mindfulness, to me, is the holy grail of all mental health. If it's hard for you (and if meditation makes you queasy) this is a great way to get started.

MWH Monthly Subscription ($11 per month)

You've heard this, and it's true: our bodies keep the score. If we're experiencing intense emotions we're going to feel it in our bodies, and if we don't move our bodies, our emotions can get stuck. Movement not only gives us a space to move through big feels, but also promotes the release of endorphins to foster a sense of happiness, expansion, and motivation. I started MWH during COVID, and have loved it since. I love Melissa Wood's lifestyle vids on spirituality and learning self-trust too. I think it'd be fu

When You're Ready This Is How You Heal ($18)

Every time I read one of Brianna's books I feel seen. She has a way of cutting to the heart of the matter while offering deep advice and heartfelt wisdom in the efforts of self-discovery and personal growth. This book is a great gift for the readers among us, as it provides inspiration and direction for all things personal development, self-love and resilience.

Sporty & Rich NY 94 Crewneck - Forest/Cream ($160)

I can't explain this girl math, but sometimes when it comes to changing up our lifestyle choices it's not enough to think it; we need to wear it too. It's cliche, but it works for me. I have a few pieces, including this comfy sweatshirt from Sporty & Rich (which reads New York Health & Wellness Club) that serve as a reminder throughout the hustle and mindlessness we often fall into day to day to make conscious choices that will enhance my overall state of heart and mind. Dress for the job (read: life) you want and all…

Aman Purifying Auric Cleanse Bath Salts ($120)

To me, there's nothing more anxiety relieving than a 20-minute bath with NO PHONE. I'm a do-er and slowing down has never been easy for me, so when I give myself a solid reason (to me, bath salts are a really solid reason), it helps a lot. The Aman salts are made from Ancient Himalayan salts and infuse the body with essential minerals and elements, strengthening circulation, emotion regulation, and energy.

Boisson GIft Card ($10 and up)

For our sober curious friends that we're here to support, acknowledging their journey and providing a way to feel included in the holiday festivities is one of the most thoughtful things you can do. Pick up a bottle or give a gift card — Boisson has incredible sparkling rose, Fall wine lists, spirits, and pretty much everything you could imagine, all alcohol free. Friends who are changing their relationships with alcohol feeling included, supported, heard, and seen? I'll drink to that.

Sunday Citizen Snug Blanket Hoodie ($98)

This hoodie is like wearing a hug. It's perfect as a matching his and hers set, and can be worn indoors and out on the days when you just need to just be in the coziest state of being. The gentle pressure of the fabric can help reduce stress and anxiety, making it the perfect gift for anyone who needs a little extra comfort and care.

Take Your Time-Layer Your Intentions Bracelet ($40)

Made by a company dedicated to expanding the self-love vocabulary, these bracelets hold fun and sweet reminders that make another perfect gift. My personal favorites are the Layer Your Intentions & The Power of Little Words Collections, with bracelets that say: You Are Here; Take Your Time; Balance; Evolve; and Find the Joy. They serve as an ever-present reminder to combat anxiety, pay attention to the joy that exists around us, and that the most important part of healing is to keep on living.

Aliza Shapiro (she/her), LCSW, is a licensed therapist and the founder of Therapy in the City. In her clinical work, Aliza helps adults, young adults, and adolescents overcome an array of mental health challenges, including depression, anxiety, OCD, and related disorders. Her team specializes in evidence-based practices, including CBT and DBT therapies, and serves individuals, couples, and families struggling with trauma, ADHD, relationships, eating disorders, and life transitions. Aliza is a passionate advocate for mental health awareness and utilizes social media to normalize mental health topics, break stigmas, and foster community. Aliza is a PS Council member.