How to Have Comfy Car Sex, According to a Sex Expert

The car may be one of the most underrated places to have sex. Sure, it's a little crammed, and it may not be as glamorous as you remember it being in high school, but car sex is nostalgic for a reason.

Similarly to dry humping and making out, car sex is one of those things that people tend to neglect as they get older (or once they move out of their parents' house). The general consensus: once you don't have to have sex in a car, why would you choose to have sex in a car?

But there are many reasons why car sex can be fun: It's spontaneous, kinky, and dirty in a "should-we-be-doing-this?" type of way. Even Chappell Roan has been knee deep in the passenger seat before.

So what is car sex, and what are the best car sex positions to make use of the space? Sex expert Suzannah Weiss explains below.

Suzannah Weiss is a sex expert and the resident sexologist for Fleshy, a sex-toy pleasure brand. She is also the author of "Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject."

Car sex is any type of sex that happens in or on a car. (But for safety reasons, the only kind of car sex we endorse is when the car is in park and in a discreet location.) "I'd recommend only having sex in your car while it is parked in your own garage or driveway, or somewhere else where you are unlikely to be seen by other people," Weiss says. This helps you avoid situations where you may get caught or in trouble with the law. But don't worry, this doesn't ruin the fun.

Car sex is great because it's unexpectedly hot. "It feels passionate to be ripping off each other's clothes, and it can also feel naughty. It's as if you are sneaking away into the car so as not to get caught," Weiss says. Plus, car sex taps into exhibitionism — a kink all about enjoying public sex with the risk of getting caught. (Again, just make sure you're not actually in an area where you could get caught.)

Most importantly though, car sex adds a little variety to your routine. It gets you away from the bedroom and creates excitement in a new setting. "It can give the experience a certain novelty that can make it feel as if you are discovering each other all over again," Weiss adds.

You can have car sex in whatever way you want. Once you get in the car, simply explore your partner in the same way you would anywhere else. But if you're unsure where to start or how to master the art of car sex, here are some tips to keep in mind as you make use of the space.

Remember that car sex doesn't have to include penetration or a partner. It can include any form of foreplay, masturbation, oral sex, or just erogenous-zone touching. In fact, you could even start the teasing in the car and then move the party to a more private location when you're ready.

Pick the right car sex position. According to Weiss, the most simple car sex position is the "lap dance," where one partner straddles the other partner sitting on one of the seats. You can try this variation of the cowgirl sex position in the front or back seat. If you prefer missionary or doggy, you could also attempt these while lying horizontally in the backseat with your partner. (Depending on your heights, however, it may be uncomfortable.) Perhaps most notably though, the road head sex position is famous for car sex. "This sex position involves the passenger bending down and giving the driver oral sex," Weiss says.

Keep a blanket in your car for when the mood strikes (or you just get cold). Not only is a blanket important to have in your car for safety reasons, but it could also be beneficial for sex reasons, too. "Keep a blanket in the car to fold up for cushioning or to spread over the backseat to avoid messes and cover up potentially pokey seat belt buckles," Weiss says.

Taylor Andrews (she/her) is the balance editor at PS, specializing in topics relating to sex, relationships, dating, sexual health, mental health, travel, and more. With seven years of editorial experience, Taylor has a strong background in content creation and storytelling. Prior to joining PS in 2021, she worked at Cosmopolitan.