the way this is genuinely life changing stuff for me

By @ kashcolegrove, Kai Asher Colegrove (he/him).

By @ kashcolegrove, Kai Asher Colegrove (he/him).

Strip poker at the knights order sucks ass this shit takes forever and we're running out of space on the table

Guy next to me took off one bessagew and you can't even see their face but you can feel their smug-ass grin beneath it

you, uh, want some bathtub grappa?

not unless it's Uncle Scary's.

woke up and turned over and there was a roach next to me.... wtf did we do last night....?

how dare you make me read this

always feels like people who tell trans men "you dont deserve to be a man" "why dont you own up to the responsibility of being a man" etc to demean us always have this weird, heightened opinion of men; even if they claim to hate men? like why would you tell me I dont meet this crazy high standard for Being A Man unless you saw manliness as something inherently virtuous that one must work extra hard to be worthy of achieving? instead of men just being. idk. normal people. its a little strange

"An oxytocin nasal spray caused men in a monogamous relationship, but not single men, to increase the distance between themselves and an attractive woman during a first encounter by 10 to 15 centimeters."

humans are WEIRD

Oxytocin is a wild hormone because it has some definite use in the body to control uterine contractions during pregnancy and affects lactation, but it turns out it's used for all kinds of other things, and we've largely tested this by: 1. genetically modifying mice so it doesn't work and seeing what changes 2. dosing them (and humans) with extra oxytocin and seeing what happens

And what happens is a bunch of weird stuff, like it makes you less afraid? and more trusting and generous?

and men and women closer together!?

fascinating

Tumblr these past few days

being unemployed is really bad for you and job searching is an abysmal process but, if you think about it, having a job doesn't sound that good either

hey I'm gonna fix all discourse real quick, watch this

1) mind your own fucking business

2) take care of your own mental health first before attempting to dictate to others how to care for theirs

3) nothing about the human experience is binary, any attempts to simplify existence down into two categories of good or bad/right or wrong will fail because there will always, ALWAYS be someone or something that cannot be categorized. Doing this to human beings is oppressive.

4) what nourishes the lily drowns the cactus. your wounds heal differently than others. respect that other people know their needs better than you do, and stop trying to change peoples needs when they don't suit yours.

the way that there are definitely 100% heterosexual cisgender men who'd be exclusive bottoms and women who'd be exclusive tops if the culture around sex wasn't "man = top, woman = bottom" fucks me up whenever i think about it.

if you're a cis straight person reading this and sex has always felt like A Task To Complete or has felt awful and painful emotionally for you; you don't have to exist within this obligatory sexual binary. you can have sex in ways that feel safe and affirming and not in the way that you're "supposed to". it will be difficult but i know you can do it.

The horror inherent in how we (don't) talk about covid anymore. Everyone is constantly getting infected at school, work and health care facilities and many of us are getting more & more disabled. At the same time, work from home jobs are disappearing and wearing a mask is stigmatized. People are sending their kids to school without even thinking about it. Workers are peer pressured not to mask. Try showing up to a job interview with a mask and see if you get the job. All that during a cost of living crisis & mass unemployment in many places. Choose between eating & avoiding brain damage. It's the black lung of our time. One of the worst tendencies of humanity on full display, on a global scale and nobody but disabled people even gives a shit anymore.

It's curious indeed...

Even the rich guy who's trying to live forever was affected by it & doesn't mask consistently.