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Anything that's fit for human consumption counts as a salad if you chop it into little cubes and mix it together with olives and feta.

chocolate? marshmallows? ghost peppers? liquids? ice cream?

I'm suspicious that all of those would work mixed together, but I'm sure that individually, each of those five things could work as a component of a salad with well-chosen other ingredients.

in the defence of the chocolate marshmallow ghost pepper unknown liuäquids ice cream salad is tht no one said it had to be a good salad, just a salad

also liquids is not even that weird in a salad, rhough usually they are called dressing

I'm actually pretty sure that there has to be a way to make a salad that includes dark chocolate, black olives and feta, and whatever the other ingredients might look like, whoever figures that out would also know what wine would suit best with it.

I have expanded the discourse.

Anything that's fit for human consumption counts as a salad if you chop it into little cubes and mix it together with olives and feta.

chocolate? marshmallows? ghost peppers? liquids? ice cream?

I'm suspicious that all of those would work mixed together, but I'm sure that individually, each of those five things could work as a component of a salad with well-chosen other ingredients.

Potentially bad roleplaying session idea:

The player characters are snowed in (or otherwise temporarily confined inside) a house roughly the exact size and shape of the session host's residence, which they cannot leave for the time being, but also don't need to fight their way out of. This is a closed single-location episode, which is also played in LARP.

The party's task is to successfully cook one nice meal, in real time, entirely in character, in the host's kitchen, without any of the players getting killed. Characters killing each other is ok.

Assuming we aren’t talking about killing the players, this actually sounds really fun I wanna try this eventually if I get the chance

I don't trust people who regard other peoples' feelings like the weather, that just randomly happens with no rhyme or reason for unknowable causes beyond our control. The people who think that other people will just randomly get mad at them for no reason, and they'll also just stop being mad at some point, and the only thing one can do about it is to shrug and carry on, and wait for it to blow over.

Not only are they entirely incapable of contemplating whether there might be something they are doing that frustrates and aggravates others to the point of genuine rage, they're oblivious to the sheer amount of mental work that other people have to go through to process and accept that this person can't do better than that, won't do better, and will never learn how to be better. Their only options are to put up with this person or not put up with them.

It's this specific type of person who is shocked and astonished every single time when somebody - from their perspective suddenly, and completely out of the blue - decides that they'd rather not deal with this person at all than continue doing the endless, joyless, and thankless work of putting up with them for nothing in return.

Tbh: I am constantly afraid that i am that person, that constantly annoys and pisses people off..

I am afraid that everyone actually hates me for some reason and they just don't tell me why they hate me.

How can i be a better person without anyone telling me if i am doing something wrong?

How do you tell when someone is angry at you/hates you or is put off by you? And how do you figure out what is wrong?

Like, i genuinely would love to become a better person, but i don't know what i am doing wrong

:(

I think there's a very quick way to test this:

When you ask people if/why they're mad at you, do you listen to what they're saying, or do you interrupt and talk on top of them when they're trying to give you an answer?

What do we do when they say "you know what you did" and refuse to elaborate?

Cut them out of your life. They're not looking to resolve the conflict, they're prolonging it to punish you, and you don't need that.

That's not necessarily reason to cut them out of your life. Its important to accept that others are struggling with communication in our age of social alienation. They have their own issues in this same as we all do. If they say you know what you did, you try to convey to them that you struggle to understand what upsets them, and need an explanation from their point of view. Learning about dialectics and how to have these discussions about truth helps with navigating this if you want to really get into the academics of the topic

Nope. Snip snip. If someone genuinely has a hard time and struggles to understand how to not treat you like shit, it's still not your duty or responsibility to have a hard time struggling to teach them. You can just leave and find people who don't suck.

Hyper individualistic, self centered horseshit. People like you are the ones that are incapable of maintaining relationships because you think every single interaction has to benefit you somehow, like you can't find it within yourself to exercise empathy and patience if it's not going to profit you. People are not put on this earth to entertain you, their lives go on without you, and to expect that every relationship MUST ALWAYS BE SERVING YOU or else they deserve to suffer and die alone is how we got to a society on the fucking brink of collapse.

If you think you owe it to people who treat you like shit to suffer for them, then go right ahead. Maybe you do deserve it, but that's a you problem. I don't. I'm not catholic, I don't believe in the sanctifying power of suffering.

That was a huge leap in logic from not putting up with someone being a shit to you, to they deserve to suffer and die alone!!

People need to take responsibility for their own actions. You CAN stop yourself from treating people like shit, you CAN stop taking advantage of them, you CAN stop pretending you're incapable of recognising their emotions and how you've upset them.

We are taught to be accommodating of people's suffering and internal struggles but it reaches a point where enough is enough. If you're consistently mean to me and don't know why I'm upset, refuse to do any internal reflection, then I have absolutely no need to prop you up in life. Do your own emotional work and stop taking from me all the time.

There are people who make mistakes but that's the minority of their behaviour and with a bit of a conversation you can find out why they're like that. And that is fine. But I'm not going to waste my life having people behave like shit and expect me to just accept it, or worse, enable that behaviour by not telling them they're behaving like shit. They choose not to learn, so I'm off out of there! Leave them to their own misery.

I don't think that's a huge leap of logic. I do believe that people who treat the people around them like shit deserve to suffer and die alone. I cut my family out of my life because a million attempts to try to patiently teach them how to be better went on deaf ears, and if my sister called me today to tell me that our mom died and that she needs my help arranging the funeral, I'd say "tough luck" and hang up on her.

I don't trust people who regard other peoples' feelings like the weather, that just randomly happens with no rhyme or reason for unknowable causes beyond our control. The people who think that other people will just randomly get mad at them for no reason, and they'll also just stop being mad at some point, and the only thing one can do about it is to shrug and carry on, and wait for it to blow over.

Not only are they entirely incapable of contemplating whether there might be something they are doing that frustrates and aggravates others to the point of genuine rage, they're oblivious to the sheer amount of mental work that other people have to go through to process and accept that this person can't do better than that, won't do better, and will never learn how to be better. Their only options are to put up with this person or not put up with them.

It's this specific type of person who is shocked and astonished every single time when somebody - from their perspective suddenly, and completely out of the blue - decides that they'd rather not deal with this person at all than continue doing the endless, joyless, and thankless work of putting up with them for nothing in return.

Tbh: I am constantly afraid that i am that person, that constantly annoys and pisses people off..

I am afraid that everyone actually hates me for some reason and they just don't tell me why they hate me.

How can i be a better person without anyone telling me if i am doing something wrong?

How do you tell when someone is angry at you/hates you or is put off by you? And how do you figure out what is wrong?

Like, i genuinely would love to become a better person, but i don't know what i am doing wrong

:(

I think there's a very quick way to test this:

When you ask people if/why they're mad at you, do you listen to what they're saying, or do you interrupt and talk on top of them when they're trying to give you an answer?

What do we do when they say "you know what you did" and refuse to elaborate?

Cut them out of your life. They're not looking to resolve the conflict, they're prolonging it to punish you, and you don't need that.

That's not necessarily reason to cut them out of your life. Its important to accept that others are struggling with communication in our age of social alienation. They have their own issues in this same as we all do. If they say you know what you did, you try to convey to them that you struggle to understand what upsets them, and need an explanation from their point of view. Learning about dialectics and how to have these discussions about truth helps with navigating this if you want to really get into the academics of the topic

Nope. Snip snip. If someone genuinely has a hard time and struggles to understand how to not treat you like shit, it's still not your duty or responsibility to have a hard time struggling to teach them. You can just leave and find people who don't suck.

Hyper individualistic, self centered horseshit. People like you are the ones that are incapable of maintaining relationships because you think every single interaction has to benefit you somehow, like you can't find it within yourself to exercise empathy and patience if it's not going to profit you. People are not put on this earth to entertain you, their lives go on without you, and to expect that every relationship MUST ALWAYS BE SERVING YOU or else they deserve to suffer and die alone is how we got to a society on the fucking brink of collapse.

If you think you owe it to people who treat you like shit to suffer for them, then go right ahead. Maybe you do deserve it, but that's a you problem. I don't. I'm not catholic, I don't believe in the sanctifying power of suffering.

I don't trust people who regard other peoples' feelings like the weather, that just randomly happens with no rhyme or reason for unknowable causes beyond our control. The people who think that other people will just randomly get mad at them for no reason, and they'll also just stop being mad at some point, and the only thing one can do about it is to shrug and carry on, and wait for it to blow over.

Not only are they entirely incapable of contemplating whether there might be something they are doing that frustrates and aggravates others to the point of genuine rage, they're oblivious to the sheer amount of mental work that other people have to go through to process and accept that this person can't do better than that, won't do better, and will never learn how to be better. Their only options are to put up with this person or not put up with them.

It's this specific type of person who is shocked and astonished every single time when somebody - from their perspective suddenly, and completely out of the blue - decides that they'd rather not deal with this person at all than continue doing the endless, joyless, and thankless work of putting up with them for nothing in return.

Tbh: I am constantly afraid that i am that person, that constantly annoys and pisses people off..

I am afraid that everyone actually hates me for some reason and they just don't tell me why they hate me.

How can i be a better person without anyone telling me if i am doing something wrong?

How do you tell when someone is angry at you/hates you or is put off by you? And how do you figure out what is wrong?

Like, i genuinely would love to become a better person, but i don't know what i am doing wrong

:(

I think there's a very quick way to test this:

When you ask people if/why they're mad at you, do you listen to what they're saying, or do you interrupt and talk on top of them when they're trying to give you an answer?

What do we do when they say "you know what you did" and refuse to elaborate?

Cut them out of your life. They're not looking to resolve the conflict, they're prolonging it to punish you, and you don't need that.

That's not necessarily reason to cut them out of your life. Its important to accept that others are struggling with communication in our age of social alienation. They have their own issues in this same as we all do. If they say you know what you did, you try to convey to them that you struggle to understand what upsets them, and need an explanation from their point of view. Learning about dialectics and how to have these discussions about truth helps with navigating this if you want to really get into the academics of the topic

Nope. Snip snip. If someone genuinely has a hard time and struggles to understand how to not treat you like shit, it's still not your duty or responsibility to have a hard time struggling to teach them. You can just leave and find people who don't suck.