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NURTURE YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS Connect with
your family

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One of the biggest challenges for families
to stay connected is the busy pace of life.
But Blue Zones research states that the
healthiest, longest-living people in the
world all have something in common:
they put their families first. Family
support can provide comfort, support,
and even influence better health
outcomes while you are sick.

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Relationships and family author
Mimi Doe recommends connecting
with family by letting little
grievances go, spending time
together, and expressing love and
compassion to one another. Of
course, the same practices apply to
close friends as well.
This is especially important if you don’t have
living family, or have experienced difficult
circumstances, such as abuse, that would make
it difficult for you to connect with your
relatives.

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Activity 4
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Role Play
6 groups
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Group 1 - Practice gratitude
Group 2 - Learn to forgive
Group 3 - Be compassionate
Group 4 - Accept others
Group 5 - Create rituals together

Group 6 - Spend the right amount of

time together
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Practice
gratitude
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Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive
emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships. One
2010 study found that expressing gratitude
toward a partner can strengthen the
relationship, and this positive boost is felt by
both parties—the one who expresses gratitude
and the one who receives it.
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Practice gratitude
Remembering to say “thank you”
when a friend listens or your spouse
brings you a cup of coffee can set off
an upward spiral of trust, closeness,
and affection.

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Learn to
forgive
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Learn to forgive
It’s normal for disagreements or
betrayals to arise in relationships, but
your choice about how to handle the
hurt can have a powerful effect on
the healing process. Choosing to
forgive can bring about a variety of
benefits, both physical and emotional.
Learn to forgive
Fred Luskin, head of the Stanford
Forgiveness Project, says it’s easier to let
go of the anger or hurt feelings associated
with a circumstance if you remind yourself
that much of your distress is really coming
from the thoughts and feelings you are
having right now while remembering the
event—not the event itself.
Learn to forgive
Don’t be afraid to clearly
articulate why you are upset,
but once the other party has
listened, be willing to lay down
your anger and move on.
Be
Compassionate
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Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness to be open to
yourself and others, even in painful times,
with a gentle, nonjudgmental attitude.
When you feel compassionate toward
another person—whether a romantic
partner, friend, relative, or colleague—you
open the gates for better communication
and a stronger bond.
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Be compassionate
This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering
of others, or absorbing their emotions.
Rather, compassion is the practice of
recognizing when someone else is
unhappy or whose needs aren’t being
met and feeling motivated to help them.
We are an imitative species: when
compassion is shown to us, we return it.
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Accept
others
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Accept others
It is also important to be accepting of the
other person in the relationship. Obviously,
this does not apply in situations of abuse or
unhealthy control, where you need
foremost to protect yourself. But otherwise,
try to understand where the person is
coming from rather than judge them.
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Accept others
As you do for yourself, have a
realistic acceptance of the other's
strengths and weaknesses and
remember that change occurs
over time.
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Create rituals
together
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Create rituals together
With busy schedules and the presence
of online social media that offer the
façade of real contact, it’s very easy to
drift from friends. In order to nurture
the closeness and support of
friendships, you have to make an
effort to connect.
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Create rituals together
Gallup researcher Tom Rath has
found that people who deliberately
make time for gatherings or trips
enjoy stronger relationships and
more positive energy.
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Create rituals together
An easy way to do this is to create a
standing ritual that you can share and
that doesn’t create more stress—talking
on the telephone on Fridays, for example,
or sharing a walk during lunch breaks,
are ways to keep in contact with the ones
you care about the most.
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Spend the right
amount of time
together
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Spend the right amount of
time together
Gallup researchers Jim Harter and Raksha Arora
found that people who spend 6- 7 hours per day
socializing (which could mean hanging out with
friends, sharing meals with family, or even emailing a
colleague) tend to be the happiest. In contrast, those
who have zero interactions (or an exhausting overload
of social time) feel more stressed.
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Spend the right amount of
time together
Knowing when to give your time to others
and when to take some time for yourself can
be crucial in maintaining balanced, healthy
relationships as well as emotional well being.

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TEN RULES FOR
FINDING LOVE
AND CREATING
LONG-LASTING,
AUTHENTIC
RELATIONSHIPS
1. YOU MUST
LOVE YOURSELF
FIRST
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YOU MUST LOVE
YOURSELF FIRST
Your relationship with yourself is the
central template from which all others
are formed. Loving yourself is a
prerequisite to creating a successful
and authentic union with another.
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2. PARTNERING
IS A CHOICE
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PARTNERING
IS A CHOICE
The choice to be in a relationship
is up to you. You have the ability to
attract your beloved and cause the
relationship you desire to happen.
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3. CREATING
LOVE IS A
PROCESS
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CREATING LOVE IS A
PROCESS
Moving from “I” to “we” requires
a shift in perspective and
energy. Being an authentic
couple is an evolution.
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4. RELATIONSHIPS
PROVIDE
OPPORTUNITIES
TO GROW
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RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE
OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW
Your relationship will serve as an
unofficial “lifeshop” in which you
will learn about yourself and how
you can grow on your personal
path.
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5.
COMMUNICATIO
N IS ESSENTIAL
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COMMUNICATION IS
ESSENTIAL
The open exchange of
thoughts and feelings is the
lifeblood of your relationship.
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6. NEGOTIATION
WILL BE
REQUIRED
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NEGOTIATION WILL BE
REQUIRED
There will be times when you and your
partner must work through impasses.
If you do this consciously and with
respect, you will learn to create win-
win outcomes.
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7. YOUR
RELATIONSHIP
WILL BE
CHALLENGED
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YOUR RELATIONSHIP
WILL BE CHALLENGED BY
CHANGE
Life will present turns in the road.
How you maneuver those twists
and turns determines the success
of your relationship.
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8. YOU MUST
NURTURE THE
RELATIONSHIP
FOR IT TO
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YOU MUST NURTURE THE
RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO
THRIVE
Treasure your beloved and
your relationship will flourish.
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9. RENEWAL IS
THE KEY TO
LONGEVITY
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RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO
LONGEVITY
Happily ever after means
the ability to keep the
relationship fresh and
vital.
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10. YOU WILL
FORGET ALL
THIS THE
MOMENT YOU
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YOU WILL FORGET ALL
THIS THE MOMENT YOU
FALL IN LOVE
You know all these rules
inherently. The challenge is to
remember them when you fall
under the enchanting spell of love.
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Activity:
HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS
ITEMS SET
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Answer the following in your YELLOW
PAPER

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Answer the following in your YELLOW
PAPER

1. What should you consider when making

decisions around sex and sexual limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above
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2. What is the best style of
communication to use when
making decisions about sexual
limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive
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3. Name three
important qualities of
a healthy
relationship.
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4. Which of the following is NOT an
element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another
b. One person makes all the
decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
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5. Name a reason why
you may not make
healthy choices when
it comes to sex.
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6. Name three
resources you can turn
to if you are worried
about abuse in your
relationship.
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7. Name three
characteristics of
an unhealthy
relationship.
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8. What skills do you need to make
healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do
public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active
listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication
e. None of the above
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9. Why would you
choose abstinence?
Give 3 reasons.

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10. Which of the following are signs that
you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of
injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s
behavior
d. All of the above
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Processing Questions:
1. What were your thoughts and feelings
while answering the activity?

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2. What did you discover about yourself
after doing the activity?

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3. With previous activities, how would
you describe your relationship with your
parents? Siblings? Possible or current
romantic relationship? Friends?

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4. Which relationship is most important
to you? Why?

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5. In what ways do you express your
feelings, whether positive or negative?

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6. If your relationship is not doing very
well, what can you do about it?

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