Connected But Alone

According to Sherry Turkle, now that would have been considered odd and

disturbing a few years ago we use our phones everywhere we go and whenever we
are leaving we first make sure we have our phone with us because we consider it as
important as it should not be. We use our phones where we don’t have to and its
making us lose interest and the value of where we are in the moment. For example,
you were eating with your friends and yet you are using your phones while eating
and not talking at all because you were all busy taking picture of the foods just to
share on your Instagram stories or Facebook stories and to be seen by the people
who follows you. While you should respect the food you were eating without using
your phone, share your thoughts with friends and have some fun conversation with
them.

The Goldilocks effect: not too close, not too far, just right. So, this is how we
can control what we are about to say through editing, if we can edit we can delete
and retouch. These makes us present ourselves of what we want to be. We can
compose our own appearance to other people in our own ideal way.

One of the problems of human relationships is being too perfectionist and

when we clean up our mistakes we get to sacrifice conversation for mere connection.
We value more the success than the failure that makes us strive more to succeed in
life. We have to consider the filtered side because you are just like covered by a
mascara and not really showing the real you. Afraid of being you because of the
judgments but we can make that as a way of communicating and knowing the people
around you which you can choose whom you want to be with.
Texts or “small sips” of communication are good for communicating

information while they are bad for learning with each other, understanding
someone’s feelings and really coming to know the person you are talking to. Through
technology we just read someone’s thoughts but we don’t really know how the
person feels because we can’t see it, is it really helpful? No because you can’t hug a
person to show that you are there for him/her through text messages. This is how
important verbal communication is. Conversation is how we communicate ourselves
and talking with one another is a fundamentals of development for a kids growing up.
We expect more from technology and less from each other because we want
understanding, comfort and someone who will listen to our rants, problems and all
the troubles of our life. We thought technology can give those to us because we can
easily deal with them not like a person he/she can judge us after listening to our
rants and troubles, you have to build trust first before telling someone all your
problems and it takes someone who loves you and care for you to comfort you.
Humans are way more complicated than technology or robots.
However, we use technology when we are sad or lonely because we want to

feel connected and we want to feel some company that we can comfortably control.
But the reality is we are really not much in control and comfortable. Sometimes we
can’t control our emotions and editing wont even work. We need comfort but are we
really getting it through technology? No! talking face to face is way more different
from talking through your phone and that way you can really feel the comfort you are
longing for.
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There are three fantasies technology give us: one, that we can put our
attention wherever we want it to be; two, that we will always be heard; and three, that
we will never have to be alone. In my opinion there are dangers to these fantasies
because it makes us depend more on technology than to communicate and have
some conversation with someone that can really help us and make us feel not alone.
We can share our ideas, thoughts and being heard by communicating through
technology but we have to limit ourselves in using it. Therefore, we have to be
responsible enough so that technology will not shape a new way of being.
Solitude is where you seek to feel connected, where you find yourself and
where you can feel the attachment of other people to your life. If we feel alone, we
tend to feel lonely that causes us the desire to turn to other people to make us feel
were living our life and to make ourselves believe that we have someone by our side
when we really don’t have. But being alone does not mean being lonely, its actually
makes us appreciate ourselves as well as the other people in our lives but nowadays
that’s what other people hate, being alone.
For me being alone is so important because it’s the time to know yourself
better and to focus more on to your life. Solitude is not always a bad thing, you have
to give chance and open your heart for it. Simple things like limiting yourselves on
using your phone while eating, while with friends and while you are at work or in
school that make us communicate verbally and to know more the people around you.
In this way we can develop self aware relationship with everyone and especially with
ourselves.
In my point of view to this video entitled “connected, but alone” I definitely

agree with everything because this makes me realize that I have been using
technology for more than it should be. And I observed with my surroundings that we
spent more time using our phones than really talking with one another. We share our
feelings and thoughts by posting it on social media that we should say it to someone
that we can really talk to verbally. And yes, we use technology for information but we
tend to abuse it by using it every now and then even we really don’t have to. Its very
alarming but as what Sherry Turkle says “Let’s talk about how we can use digital
technology, the technology of our dreams, to make this life we can love.”

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According to Sherry Turkle, now that would have been considered odd and

One of the problems of human relationships is being too perfectionist and

Texts or “small sips” of communication are good for communicating

However, we use technology when we are sad or lonely because we want to

In my point of view to this video entitled “connected, but alone” I definitely

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