Femininity Lost and Regained
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The author of the phenomenal bestsellers He and She discusses the importance of regaining the feminine dimension in our lives. According to Johnson, regaining the power of feminine feeling and value is critical to the development of human peace and consciousness.
Robert A. Johnson
Robert A. Johnson, a noted lecturer and Jungian analyst, is also the author of He, She, We, Inner Work, Ecstasy, Transformation, and Owning Your Own Shadow.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Beautiful... everyone will learn from this book. As a woman I end this reading with a sense of fulfillment, a quiet joy.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Mr Johnson surprises me again eith his deep understanding of human beings ans their longings. Thank you again for showing me new paths to be followed and understood in the great quest of self knowledge
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Femininity Lost and Regained - Robert A. Johnson
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The Current Issue
The loss of feminine qualities and energy is an urgent psychological issue in modern society. It is a painful concern in the emotional lives of both men and women. This loss of something so essential for a woman forces her to question her femininity. It crystallizes the long historic debate about the position of women in society. The loss of feminine energy for a man is less obvious, but it curtails the emotional depths of his personality and is the source of much of his discontent, loneliness, sense of meaninglessness, and moodiness. It is a shock for a man to discover that his moods and much of his feeling nature are feminine! To be overtaken by a mood is to be overwhelmed by the inner feminine aspect of his character, and it is only by understanding and embracing this femininity that he can clearly understand his masculine nature. The loss or damage of inner feminine qualities affects our emotional well-being, directly modifying our happiness and contentment. If the feminine qualities are in good order, a person will feel safe and secure.
In understanding that femininity is not the prerogative of the female, our first task is to school ourselves to think of it as an entity that affects a woman’s central feminine identity and affects a man’s ability and capacity for feeling and valuing.
It would be easier to understand this vital dimension if our language were not so sexist and bankrupt. We lack terms for the feminine aspect of life that are multifaceted and rich. Languages often have several terms to describe the elements of a culture that are highly regarded. Conversely, if a language has few terms or a single one to describe an element of its cultural life, then low regard or value is sometimes indicated. For example, Sanskrit, the basis for most East Indian languages, has ninety-six terms for love. Ancient Persian has eighty, Greek has four, English only one. English does not have the breadth, scope, and differentiation for the feminine and for feeling experiences of Sanskrit and Persian. If it did, then we would have a specific word to use in our appreciation of father, mother, sunset, wife, house, mistress, or God. Having only one word to apply to these many levels of experience makes it difficult to understand the complexity of our inner lives and emotions. The Eskimo language has thirty words for snow. This reflects the need for clarity in a complex relationship to snow. When we are as interested in relationship and femininity as the Eskimo is in snow, we will evolve a differentiated and focused language for that dimension of our lives.
The mythologist Joseph Campbell tried to enlarge our discussion of femininity by invoking the following terms:
the left, the side of the heart, the shield side, has been symbolic, traditionally and everywhere, of the feminine virtues and dangers: mothering and seduction, the tidal powers of the moon and substances of the body, the rhythms of the seasons: gestation, birth, nourishment, and fosterage; yet equally malice, and revenge, irrationality, dark and terrible wrath, black magic, poisons, sorcery, and delusion; but also fair enchantment, beauty, rapture, and bliss. And the right, thereby, is of the male: action, weapons, hero-deeds, protection, brute force, and both cruel and benevolent justice; the masculine virtues and dangers: egoism and aggression, lucid luminous reason, sunlike creative power but also cold unfeeling malice, abstract spirituality, blind courage, theoretical dedication, sober, unplayful moral force.*
Language forms our thought even when we think we are being open-minded. A friend of mine was preparing her final paper for the course work before ordination as an Episcopal priest. A daemon got into her and she decided to write from an entirely feminine perspective—this in the face of the rigid patriarchal structure of the church. Her friends advised strongly against this move, but she persevered. She wrote:
As a woman, writing a personal statement, I have chosen to use the term woman
throughout this paper, but I wish it clearly understood that in this paper the term woman
includes men as well, with no intention to exclude the male gender (except where the context clearly so indicates)—either from my understanding of theological anthropology and the nature of the church or, particularly, from the saving work of Jesus Christ. This is not done in complete innocence, of course. In part, I am attempting to reverse, for myself and my readers, the experience of reading theology, which claims to include my gender but seldom does so.
Writing on the theological notion of the person, she said:
My sense of human nature is that woman is a finite creature (created being of God), who is rational, spiritual, imaginative, and creative, or, as the Book of Common Prayer has it, blessed … with memory, reason, and skill.
She has free will (limited, but real) and potential to become a true child of God, transcending herself as she matures. In understanding her theologically, we must continually struggle to maintain a balance between her spiritual nature and her material nature, which has sometimes been over-spirit ualized
by faith communities. Her goal is to love: herself, other women, and more importantly, God.
… I think we get the best picture of the purposes for which woman was created and the possibilities in her nature in the person of Jesus. We can only properly understand who woman is after seeing who Christ is, … because only in the light of the cross can we see the actual sinfulness of woman, as well as her potential destiny.
… Of all the created creatures we can see on earth, woman alone (as far as we know) has the power of reason and memory.
Further, there is in woman (preeminently seen in Jesus) what Karl Rahner calls transcendental,
the psalmist calls a little lower than the angels,
and Genesis calls in the image of God.
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The word men,
meaning all mankind, in our scriptures and elsewhere has long subjected us to distortion. The semantic weight is toward maleness no matter what effort we make to include women in the term men.
We must search out this elusive quality—femininity—and find something of its history, even given our