I want to mind my own business
Hey. I hope people take a walk today or get outside in some way.
We’ll do a short letter – less love, more office.
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Q.
How can I avoid talking about my personal life at work? I hate my work environment because of the gossiping, and I stay out of peoples business because it makes me uncomfortable.
How I can be polite without retaliation that I don’t want to talk about my personal/love life at work?
– Talk
A.
I tell people almost everything. How I slept, when I last used the bathroom, how a boy in 8th grade rejected me.
I think that makes it easier to keep my most important secrets to myself.
That’s not why I share so much – it’s not a performance of forthcomingness so that I can keep secrets. It’s just how I talk. But … it works.
My advice is to pick three to five topics you feel happy talking about. Maybe it’s pickleball, your favorite restaurant, and one TV show. Also choose some things you’d like to hear about. Maybe tips for lunch around the office.
Then you get to control the conversation. Instead of gossip (or becoming the target of gossip), you’re the person who wants to test the coffee at the corner market. You’re friendly and available, but on your terms.
That’s all. Just get ahead of it.
– Meredith
Readers? Honestly, talk about this or whatever you need today. I only ask that you maintain your empathy.
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