I've Moved!

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I'm no longer blogging here at Semkee/Seeds.

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Blogging Woes

Oh the blogging woes I have lived through!

But this week's blogging antics really won the prize!

 Long story short:

I installed picasa on my computer.

All my photos on my computer were were sucked into the search engine of google without my permission.

I deleted the file, not knowing that the photos in this file that were on my blog were somehow connected via picasa so therefore, I deleted all the photos on my blog.

I'm sharing all this drama in the hopes that no one out there using blogger will ever have to experience this.

This was the last straw for me with blogger/google and do not want to continue to build a blog on such an unstable blogging platform.

Therefore, I am moving!

Please check out my new blog.  Just click on  www.beetrootsandpostcards.wordpress.com

See ya over there!

BLOG UPDATE

APPARENTLY, IN DOWNLOADING PICASA IN AN ATTEMPT TO FIGURE OUT HOW INSTAGRAM WORKS.........GOOGLE HAS STOLEN ALL OF MY PHOTOS OFF OF MY BLOG AND I CANNOT REPLACE THEM. I HAVE BECOME INCREASINGLY FRUSTRATED WITH GOOGLE SINCE IT HAS TAKEN OVER BLOGGER AND MADE CHANGES. I DO NOT WANT A BLOG OPEN TO SEARCH ENGINES ON THE INTERNET AND DO NOT WANT TO BE A PART OF GOOGLE PLUS BUT I AM CONTINUALLY "FORCED" TO BE INVOLVED DUE TO GOOGLE GRABBING ALL THE INFORMATION IT CAN TO CREATE THEIR SEARCH ENGINE. DUE TO THE FACT THEY HAVE DELETED ALL OF MY PHOTOGRAPHS, I WILL NO LONGER BE POSTING HERE AND WILL BE STARTING A NEW BLOG ON A NEW PLATFORM. I WILL LEAVE THIS BLOG HERE FOR PEOPLE TO CHECK OUT FOR NOW. WHEN I DECIDE ON A NEW BLOGGING PLATFORM, I WILL POST IT HERE. I AM VERY SORRY FOR THIS CHANGE.

The Child Catchers - Book Review

Some years ago I sat with a group of street children on the curb here in Ukraine and listened to them cry and ask over and over what happened to the Americans who had promised them a home.  When were they coming back?  When would their home be ready? Why was it taking so long?

Knowing that money was raised and had never appeared in Ukraine, and that the promise of a home was very unlikely at this point in time, I decided to tell them the truth.

"Sometimes people have really good intentions and cannot follow through with them.  You have to forgive them, accept them as they are and move on in life."

 Except for these kids, they had no where to move on to.  They were on the street to stay.

About a year later, the big orphan care movement started in Christian churches in America.  I was thrilled.  Now, working with non-profits who had set up a model of rehabilitation for children, from ministering to those living on the street and on through to adulthood.  I was sure that Christians would catch the vision of helping these children both spiritually and physically.

Except that was not exactly what happened.

I visited the states and went to conferences on orphan care.  I was handed stacks and stacks of glossy, expensive brochures and was then told excitedly to go to the fast track workshop were I could hear the first hand stories of a woman who actually worked on the street with street children in South America!

"You really need to hear this woman speak.  She is going to tell us exactly what it's like working with street children! Isn't that exciting?" 

"Uhm, I already know what it's like working with street children.

Blank stare.

I have been working with street children in Ukraine for a few years now." I explained.

Blank stare.

As I sat in the near empty non-profit financial accountability workshop, it began to dawn on me that these conferences were not set up for people like me.

And then the adoption movement gained momentum. 

This really excited me because at the time in Ukraine there was nearly no precedent for nationals to adopt children and there were scattered orphan care ministries around the country.  If Ukrainian nationals started to adopt, this could have a huge impact on orphan care in Ukraine.  Our ministry was one of the very first to promote national adoption and foster care and placed over 100 children in homes. Today more Ukrainian nationals adopt orphans than foreigners.

But while adoption was promoted, I saw that some areas of child care for orphans and at risk children were either ignored or dismissed out of hand by pro adoption leaders who stated at  conferences that "orphan care, is adoption, first, second and last."

That sounds very romantic and good in theory, but how exactly is that supposed to work?

 "Although the christian movement pledges to bring "the end of orphans in the world,"  making adoption the answer seems to ensure that the root causes that create "orphans" will go unchanged and that the poor or at least their children, will always be with us as families mixed in a cycle of devastating poverty, and in the absence of a working child welfare system, continue to relinquish children they still have inadequate means to provide for."  -  The Child Catchers

In my frustration, I began talking with other people working with orphans or involved with adoption advocacy and with parents who were planning or had adopted children.  Thanks to many people who were willing to take the time to talk with me and share their expertise, experiences and knowledge, I began to learn about "ethical adoption" vs the "adoption as a cause" and gained a better working knowledge in approaching orphan care.

I am not against adoption.  I am 100%  for  adoption.  But I understand that sometimes adoption is just one option for an orphan or at risk child and that some of the current marketing of adoption as a cause can do more harm than good.  

Simply stated, sin is in the world to stay and there will always be orphaned and at risk children.  If we, as Christians want to minister to them, then we need to do the best for them, in a biblical and holistic way, in the context of their culture. 

Not every orphan is adoptable and we must be willing to minister and care for them and include them in orphan care if our faith is truly based on Christ's Christianity.  Jesus left his 99 sheep to go out and find the one lost sheep.  How can we quote a theology of adoption which only applies to a chosen few?  Christ died for every single one of us.

The latest statistics I've heard is that Ukraine has 100,000 children in orphanages, but only 20% of these children are adoptable.   

Some children simply are in at risk situations where adoption is not that best choice or even an option for them. 

I recommend The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption by Kathryn Joyce for anyone learning more about the adoption movement and the issues facing those of us who want to do ethical work with orphans.  I don't agree with everything in this book, but whether you agree or not, I know that it will definitely make you think and ask yourself some hard questions.

If you have read it, I would love to know what you think.  Or, if you just want to comment on this post, please do.  I want to encourage everyone who is working with orphans and at risk children to start talking and looking at how we can improve orphan care and the adoption process. 

This was a hard post to write.  Thanks for reading it.

Camp!!!

In Ukraine, summer means camp, camp and more camp!  Here's a video I made of the camp I participated in last week with Agape Ministries and Youth Of Ukraine Phoenix Project.  There's a lot I could write about, but for now, I will let the video speak for itself.

www.agapeua.com
www.youthofukrainephoenixproject.weebly.com

Music by Amy Grant, "Greet The Day" from the album "How Mercy Looks From Here"

Psalms 126:5,6

Photos From Kracow

St. Mary's church

Taken from inside the chapel in the Barbican.

One of the many towers of the Castle.

The top of the National Cathedral of Poland

The Jewish cemetery in the Jewish Quarter of Kracow.

The Jewish cemetery

 

A Barbican tower.

Thoughts On Orphan Care

One of my friends works with orphan graduates here in Ukraine and she told me that sometimes when she goes through the village, the relatives of orphans that were adopted by families in America see her out walking and call out to her asking how their Dasha, Volva or Sergei is doing over in America.

The children that my friend developed friendships with and then watched be adopted out of the orphanage still have families here in Ukraine.  For whatever reason, they were placed in the orphanage, and at some point, parental rights were given up.  My friend says that many of these families give up their parental rights for hopes of a better life for their child in a far away country.

What many people fail to understand about orphans and orphanages here in Ukraine, is that just because a child is in an orphanage, does not mean they have lost both parents or that they don't have family or are legally eligible for adoption.   Most children in orphanages here are what should be called, "social orphans."  They have one or more living parents alive who are unable to take care of them for a variety of reasons.  Poverty and substance abuse would be two examples off the top of my head.

We have a mother in our Day Center whose oldest son lives in an orphanage.  He comes home on holidays to visit her.  They do not have an ideal relationship or living situation but it's the best she can do.  Her other option is to squeeze him and his four siblings into the cramped, two room apartment they share with ten or more family members, most of which are drinking, fighting and screaming abuses to each other. For her, she sees an orphanage or "boarding school" as they are called here, as a viable option to create some stability for her child so he can go to school, receive enough food to eat and escape and chaos of living with her.

I get frustrated with the current popular adoption movement because it promotes and highlights only the children who are adoptable and able to live in families.  Don't get me wrong, there are many children who are eligible for adoption in Ukraine and I want to see those children adopted into loving homes.  If you want to adopt a child from Ukraine, write me, I can give you the contact email of a wonderful woman who can explain the process to you and help you.  I agree that we need to be working together to get as many of these children into families and promote foster families and healthy homes here in Ukraine.

But  I repeatedly find that the focus on social orphans has been shifted to the side in the promotion of orphan care and carefully brushed away.  I hear things like, "We want to reach the 'real' orphans.  We only want to sponsor a 'real' orphan.  The only way an orphan can be reached spiritually is through a family setting."

Really?  So what happens to the children who are not adopted out of the orphanage system?  What happens to those who are left behind after the hosting party bus drives away?  What happens to those children who have a deteriorating family, but one that in some way, loves them enough to not give up their rights to their children so they can be adopted?  What happens to the social orphan?

I'm going to stop here before I get too carried away and share with you a series of blog posts from Jen Hatmaker's blog which addresses international adoption ethics in much more detail than I have time to put together for you.  Why re-invent the wheel?  She covers everything.

Please, please, please, read these posts if you are interested in ministering to orphans or are involved with orphan care ministries.........Click through the title to read the post.

 Examining Adoption Ethics: Part 1

Examining Adoption Ethics: Part 2 

Examining Adoption Ethics: Part 3 

Tell me what you think?  Should orphan care be focused on only adoption and children who are actually adoptable, or should all children's needs be addressed?  Should we as Christians promote the belief that children can only develop a healthy spiritual relationship with the Lord in a family?  Why do you think there is such a focus on adoptable children and not on social orphans?

If I can stir up a dialogue, I'll write more posts about this topic.........