Annie’s Mailbox: One-year anniversary party no reason to fret

Dear Annie: Is it unorthodox to have a one-year anniversary party? A friend of mine was married last summer. By November, she had created a save-the-date on Facebook for a one-year anniversary party. “Leona” invited everyone who had been on the wedding list, whether they attended or not. So far, only a handful have responded. Leona has since sent out printed invitations with RSVP cards. The party has been described as a casual, potluck barbecue.

To me, the whole affair is a bit unseemly. I understand wanting to have a party, but the context of it being an anniversary party to commemorate a couple that has yet to get out of the honeymoon phase seems self-centered. There is little excitement about the event, and after a few conversations with friends, I get the sense that other people feel the same way.

I’m not sure how to respond, and am a bit worried about how Leona will feel if few people show up to her gala. – Confused in California

Dear Confused: Having an anniversary party, no matter which anniversary, is perfectly fine as long as guests are not expected to pay for it and bring expensive presents. Leona’s mistake was giving the impression that it is a second wedding celebration, but we don’t believe that was her intent. It sounds as though she had a great time at her own wedding and thinks her anniversary is a good excuse to re-create the fun. While we agree that the guest list is larger than propriety endorses, please look at this as a party for friends, and base your reaction solely on that. It will help.