Getting Girls Using NLP

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Getting Girls Using NLP
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Introduction:
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Chapter 1: Positive Language and Good Communication
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Keep It Positive
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Building Rapport
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Chapter 2: Mirroring and Body Language
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Why Is Body Language Important?
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What Is Mirroring and Why Is It Important?
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Chapter 3: Emotional Anchoring and Connecting
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How Does Emotional Anchoring Work?
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Conclusion:
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Resources:
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Introduction:

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It has existed since the 1970s when it
was created as a model for therapists to use by John Grindler and Richard Bandler.
Studying this field can help to provide people with insights as to how the brain thinks
and works, which can impact our daily lives. It utilizes human thought processes, along
with language patterns and behaviors, as a way to interact with people and affect either
a positive or negative outcome.

It all sounds quite technical, but it is easier to understand and utilize in everyday
conversation than many people realize. Now, you might be wondering how this can be
used to help you with women.

It’s simple.

Many men have trouble talking with women. Not only do they not know what do say.
They don’t know how to say it, and they do not understand the correct body language or
positioning to use. NLP can help with this, and it can help you to learn just how to speak
and engage with women in a nonthreatening way that can make them want to take
things to the next level and get to know you better.

Over the following chapters, you will learn the basics of NLP, and how you can use the
techniques to improve your chances with women.

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Chapter 1: Positive Language and Good Communication

The way you speak and the words you use are important for setting the proper tone
when you are talking with a woman whether you just met her, or you have known her for
some time. Using the wrong words is going to give her the wrong impression of you very
quickly. It’s a good way to be told to leave or to be relegated to the friendzone.

You should always choose your words carefully, and you should strive to use positive
language rather than negative language.

Keep It Positive

When you are having a conversation, you will want to make sure that you are taking the
time to choose your words wisely. Once you have become accustomed to using positive
words, even in a negative situation, you will find that it can make a big difference not
only in how other people feel about what you are saying, but how you feel about the
world. Positive thinking makes you feel better. It also works well with NLP.

Let’s look at an example, so you have a better idea of how you should phrase things for
improved results.

Rather than saying “Well, my day was just awful”, you could say “today didn’t go as
perfectly as I had hoped it would. It’s a good thing I got to talk to you.” Even though you
were able to get across the same information about not having a great day, you used
positive language rather than negative language. This can help to keep the mood of the
conversation upbeat. You also get to compliment her at the same time.

In addition, you will want to listen to the type of language that she is using. If she is
speaking negatively, the first thing you will want to do is pace the language. You can do
this by agreeing with it and adding to it. However, you will then want to attempt to

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reframe the negative in a positive light if you can. If you can’t, then you may want to
change the subject.

By changing things to a positive whenever you can, it helps her to see you in a positive
light. People like to be around those who are positive. You will find that these techniques
can work with any type of mood or attitude. You can slowly draw them out and toward
you.

Building Rapport

Once you have engaged a woman in conversation, you will want to keep the
conversation going. You can’t talk about the weather or some other mundane topic
forever. Find a relevant subject or topic that you can bring up even before you first
speak to her. Sure, another topic might come to mind as you start talking, but you
should always have something in your back pocket.

Make sure the conversation is not all one-sided on your part. Listen to her when she
talks. Ask good questions, listen, respond, and occasionally make a joke to show that
you have a sense of humor. With practice, you will start to get into the flow of
conversation, and the banter will come much easier. This is a fantastic way to build
rapport.

Keep in mind that you can use this technique when you are talking with anyone. In fact,
you should, as it is going to serve as a fantastic way to practice.

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Chapter 2: Mirroring and Body Language

The proper body language is essential if you want to have success with women.
Understanding why body language is important and learning the technique of mirroring
can be extremely beneficial for you.

Why Is Body Language Important?

The way you approach a woman and the body language that you are using can make a
massive difference in how she feels about you. If you come across as threatening or
overly aggressive, she is not going to want to have anything to do with you. If you come
across as meek and meager, she is likely to see you as nonthreatening… but she will
file you away in the friendzone quickly.

You want to make sure that your body language shows that you are confident and
powerful without being threatening. When you speak to her, consider standing or sitting
beside her rather than facing her directly. People who are facing one another often feel
subconsciously like it is a competition. You want to make her feel as though you are on
the same side by literally being on the same side as her. It’s simple, but it can work.

What Is Mirroring and Why Is It Important?

Perhaps the most powerful NLP technique that you can use is mirroring. In addition, it
happens to be quite easy to do. Many people do this innately, as it is part of our natural
makeup. However, most can still use some practice to get to the point where they can
affect the way people feel about them simply by mirroring them.

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Mirroring simply means mimicking some of the subtle actions and behaviors of the
person to whom you are speaking. It’s important to reiterate that you need to be subtle
when you are mirroring someone. If it’s obvious, they are going to catch on to what you
are doing, and you will look like a fool. You need to keep practicing at it, so it becomes
something that you always do.

You can mirror many elements of a conversation with another person. For example, you
can mirror the speech patterns that a person uses. In fact, you will occasionally want to
repeat part of what the person said back to them after they have said it. In addition, you
will want to try to match the word choice and vocabulary style of the person to whom
you are speaking. Try to match the speed at which they are speaking, along with the
tempo, pitch, and volume, as well.

However, mirroring goes beyond just language. It is also about your body language. In
this case, you will be using your body language to subtly mimic some of their gestures,
and even how they are sitting. Try to match their facial expressions, and the amount of
eye contact that they are providing to you.

When you are capable of mirroring with someone, it can help you connect with them.
They are going to feel more comfortable around you, and they will be more relaxed.
They will often feel as if they’ve known you longer, as well, as they tend to see part of
themselves in you… and most people like themselves.

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Chapter 3: Emotional Anchoring and Connecting

Emotional anchoring is a process that will attach a trigger for an emotional state. When
you establish the trigger, it is then possible to “pull the trigger” in order to cause that
emotion to be reproduced later.

When you are speaking with a woman, you want them to have happy memories and
thoughts of you, naturally. The way in which you can do this is simple, but again, it will
take practice and time to get right.

How Does Emotional Anchoring Work?

An emotional anchor can be visual, auditory, or a touch. Any of these can work when
you are trying to connect with women, but you will find that the subtle touch tends to
work the best. It’s also relatively easy to implement.

When the woman laughs, you will touch her hand, arm, or shoulder at the same time.
Subconsciously, she will start to equate your touch with the feeling of happiness that
she had when she was laughing.

You always want to have an emotional anchor that will replicate a comfortable and
relaxed state. The anchor should always be positive. This could be when she was
happy and laughing from a silly joke you told or something that happened, or if you were
flirting with one another or event talking dirty, a more amorous state of mind.

Emotional anchoring like this can be quite effective when it comes to improving a
relationship, even a fledgling relationship when you just meet someone. It can help to
build rapport, and it can improve your skills at speaking and dealing with people.

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You want to make sure that you can connect with the person you are speaking with, and
NLP can help. This is true whether you are both only looking for a one-night hookup, or
you are looking for a longer-term relationship with someone special.

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Conclusion:

Using NLP is a powerful tool in many areas of your life, not just for picking up women. It
can help with self-improvement, therapy, sales, your career, and more. However, you
are interested in using it to improve your ability to speak to and connect with women,
and when you use the techniques described in this book, you will quickly see just how
well it can work for you.

As with all things in life, this is going to take some practice before you get truly good at
it, so take your time. Use the techniques that you have learned here and then build on
them for even more success.

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