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THE LAW OF LOVE
The Spiritual Laws II
Vicent Guillem
Title: The Law of Love.
Subtitle: The Spiritual Laws II
Author: Vicent Guillem Primo
Correction of the text: Raquel Martínez Sanchis.
Author of cover photo: Josep Guillem Primo
First edition, February 2012
Intellectual property registration number V-289-12
(Valencia, Spain).
Printed by: Grafo Impresores S.L.
Printed in Spain.
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INDEX
FOREWORD 4
INTRODUCTION 5
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FOREWORD
Dear reader. If you are reading these lines, you have certainly
already read the book The Spiritual Laws. That is why you will
understand why I prefer to call you brother or sister. We began
the foreword of The Spiritual Laws by saying that the content of
the book was a message of love for all humanity. The content of
the book you are about to start reading is still a message of love,
for it is in fact a continuation of the previous book, where we will
go even deeper into one of those spiritual laws, perhaps the most
important one: The Law of Love. In this second part we will
continue asking our friend Isaías all those doubts that we still have
to ask about the meaning of life and about feelings. Many of the
questions that you will find below are your own questions, the
ones that you have sent us by e-mail, that you have asked us in
meetings or in person. We have selected those that were of most
interest to all of you and that had to do with the subject we are
going to deal with: love.
I hope that it will help you to know your feelings better, that it will
allow you to distinguish the feelings of true love from the forms of
selfishness that imitate love but are not, that you will seek to
nourish the former and eliminate the latter, as this is the only way
to be happy. I hope that you lose the fear of love, so that your life
is a reflection of what you feel. I hope that after reading this book
it will be clear to you that you have a fundamental right that you
should not allow anyone to violate, and that is the right to
freedom of feeling.
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INTRODUCTION
Are you happy? No, don’t answer me yet. Because I don’t think
it’s a question that can be answered joyfully. Besides, I would like
it to be a sincere answer, that you don’t answer simply to make
yourself look good by thinking about what answer I would like to
hear. Don’t think I’m asking you to be honest for my sake. You
could probably fool me and that would be fine. I am asking you
to be honest with yourself, not to try to deceive yourself, because
your whole life depends on the answer to this question. Why do I
think it is so important? Because I believe that the desire of every
human being is to be truly happy. Don’t you want to be happy?
I look at people and I don’t see that most of them are happy.
They don’t give off happiness. Why? Maybe we don’t know how
to be happy. Is it possible to be happy and how? I think we have
all asked ourselves this question at one time or another, how can
one become happy? Intuitively we relate being happy with
knowing love. I am referring to the love of a partner. That is why
we have often dreamt of finding that love that makes us happy.
Some people would say no. It is not true. Love does not bring
happiness because I have loved a lot and that love has made
me suffer. They are people who associate love with suffering, and
in order not to suffer they prefer not to love. But what is love, what
are feelings, do we know what love really is? Let’s leave this
question open. We will have time to think about it a lot in the
course of the book. Now I want to talk to you about another
subject.
-YOU, MAN OF LITTLE FAITH. WITH ALL YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH AND
YOU STILL HAVE DOUBTS? WHO DO YOU THINK I AM?
-FEEL AND DON’T JUST THINK AND YOUR DOUBTS WILL DISSIPATE.
YOU DON’T SEE ME BECAUSE YOU ARE BOUND TO YOUR BODY.
BUT YOU CAN HEAR ME CLEARLY AND THAT’S ENOUGH FOR WHAT
YOU WANT.
-Well, there are several things that worry me. On the one hand, I
worry to see how people are, to see how they are suffering.
I felt a bit annoyed because I had the feeling that Isaías was
making fun of something that for me was very serious. And of
course, he noticed it right away.
-It may sound silly, but I don’t know how to get this message out,
and I’m also worried that I won’t remember what I’ve been
through. I also feel that I don’t know enough to be able to spread
all that people need to know. I don’t see myself as prepared, and
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I myself have many questions. How will I be able to clarify the
doubts of others if I am not clear?
-I don’t think you understand me. Even if you help me, I’m afraid
I won’t remember what you’ve told me later, when I return to the
body.
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After a while I started to feel a tingling sensation in the area of my
head, coming in at the crown of my head, very pleasant and soft.
The tingling went progressively down the inside of my head to the
neck area. It was as if I was suffering an electric shock, but of very
low intensity and not at all uncomfortable, but very pleasant. The
tingling had like pulses of greater and lesser intensity and
circulated from the top of the head to the neck as if it were a jet.
This stopped the numbness in the head area, although the rest of
the body was still in complete paralysis.
-KEEP TRYING.
-What for?
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-To record?
-DO YOU ALSO WANT ME TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO WITH IT? USE
YOUR IMAGINATION. WHAT DO YOU DO IN YOUR WORLD WHEN
SOMEONE HAS SOMETHING TO TELL AND WANTS TO MAKE IT
KNOWN?
-Write a book?
-Very funny.
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THE LAW OF LOVE
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What do you consider to be the most important human
aspiration?
Achieving true and lasting happiness.
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selfish acts of others, or to justify the repression of our feelings.
Let’s take the case that another person has let us know that we
are making them suffer. How should we deal with this situation?
With sincerity and realism. Let us first analyze our attitude towards
that person, whether we recognize selfishness on our part or not.
If we recognize a selfish attitude on our part that causes harm or
suffering to the other person, it is up to us to change our selfish
attitude. Awareness of our selfish attitudes is part of spiritual
learning, for we often act selfishly without realizing that this
selfishness causes harm to others. It is therefore necessary for us
to experience the consequences of our actions in order to
become aware of the suffering we have caused.
It can also be the case that the other person suffers because we
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have repressed our feelings of love for them, because the
repression of feelings not only harms us, but also harms others. In
other words, they suffer from deprivation of love.
We should also consider the possibility that this person’s suffering
is not caused by our selfishness but by his or her own, that it is a
false appreciation of reality on the part of the other person. In this
case, their own selfish attitude makes them unfairly perceive our
actions as selfish, because they have not been satisfied in their
expectations or because we have not acted as they expected
or demanded of us.
But there are people who believe that if you love someone you
have to sacrifice yourself for them, that is, they put their loved
one’s happiness before their own. What do you think about this?
That it is wrong to think this way. One person’s happiness cannot
be sustained by another’s suffering. It would be unfair on the part
of the spiritual world to ask anyone to give up their right to
happiness. All spiritual beings have the right to be happy, without
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this diminishing the right of others. Therefore, it is not right to give
up one’s own happiness for the happiness of others, nor is it right
to demand renunciations or sacrifices from others for the benefit
of oneself. It is selfishness, not love, that diminishes the right to be
happy. What happens is that you have a mistaken conception of
what love is, because your way of loving is mostly impregnated
with selfishness, and that is why you believe that in order for others
to be happy you have to make sacrifices in your own right to be
happy, or you believe that you have the right to demand
sacrifices from others in order to be happy. That is why it is
important to analyze very well our way of loving, to separate
what are true feelings of love from what are selfish manifestations.
In this way you will not confuse yourselves by making or asking for
unnecessary sacrifices and renunciations.
This example you have just given makes me reflect on how many
different situations can arise and how difficult it is to analyze them
all clearly and to know what to do in each one of them without
mistaking feelings for selfishness. You mentioned the subject of
relationships between partners and relationships with the
children. I think that analyzing these situations that occur within
personal relationships in an exhaustive way would be very useful
for all of us, me first, because I believe that they concern almost
everyone and I think that many people suffer as a consequence
of not knowing how to face them with clarity of spiritual
awareness. One could write a book on it alone.
Well. We are here to try to clarify all that. It is true that most of the
emotional suffering of human beings has to do with personal
relationships, starting with couple relationships and family
relationships (between parents and children, siblings, etc.), so it is
good that we deal with them comprehensively. Where do you
want us to start?
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RELATIONSHIPS IN THE LIGHT OF THE LAW OF LOVE
Why is that?
Because selfishness and need predominate in choosing a
partner, and this is compounded by the fact that most people
lack sufficient development of the capacity to love to be able to
recognize the being who is kindred to them, to awaken and
recognize their feelings for them, and to have the courage to
fight for them.
Why?
Because you identify the word twin with identical and you
believe that soul mates must be identical, equal in everything. But
this is not so. Kindred or twin souls are beings that come from the
same act of creation, from the same “spiritual birth”, so to speak.
They are one hundred percent complementary spirits, created at
the same moment to be united in love. But this does not mean
that they are equal.
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And why aren’t they equal if they are created equal?
Because the fact that they are kindred does not mean that they
have only one will. Each one has his own personality, the result of
his personal evolutionary process, which is never identical,
because each one decides for him or herself. This marks
differences at all levels.
So, if two people who come together as a couple are soul mates,
does it mean that they will achieve perfect happiness in their
relationship?
They will achieve perfect happiness when they have evolved
enough that their feelings for each other are stronger than their
faults. Being kindred does not mean that they are perfect. While
their capacity to love is underdeveloped, the selfishness of each
predominates and this creates obstacles to the manifestation of
affinity and feeling, and this prevents them from being
completely happy.
Well, I really don’t understand what the point of that would be. I
mean, if they don’t incarnate simultaneously, aren’t those spirits
being deprived of the possibility of being happy experiencing the
union of a couple?
You say that because you are seeing only the embodied part of
life. I remind you that the separation is only temporary, for the
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physical life is an instant of the real life. It is only a part of the time
of the spirit’s life that is spent in incarnation, which is shorter in the
more advanced spirits, since they space out their incarnations
quite a bit.
What if when you return to the spiritual plane your soul mate has
already reincarnated?
Keep in mind that incarnations do not occur immediately. A fairly
long time is spent on the astral plane before incarnating again.
There is usually time for kindred souls to reunite and live together
on the spiritual plane before returning to the physical plane.
Does the awareness that your soul mate is on the other plane
prevent you from having a partner in the material world?
No. Just as a widowed person can have a new partner without
transgressing any spiritual law. The incarnates can do as they see
fit with regard to their life, to have or not to have a partner, for
they have their free will to decide.
Won’t the soul that remains on the other plane feel jealous that its
soul mate has another earthly partner?
No, because the perspective you have from the spiritual world is
broader than the one you have on earth. Your kindred soul
understands the situation and will want you to make the choices
that will lead you to be happier. Although it wishes for reunion, of
course.
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become a couple?
It will be as long as one is a child and the other an adult. Not when
they are both adults.
If this is not the reason, what is the reason for the homosexual
condition from a spiritual point of view?
It is difficult to give a general answer applicable to all cases,
because each case is unique. But what is certain is that the
homosexual condition of a person who is born homosexual has to
do with what that spirit experienced in previous lives. The spirit
devoid of the material sheath has no sex. It is upon incarnation
that it acquires the sexual condition, and although there is usually
a preference for a particular sex when incarnating, in general,
the same spirit can incarnate in one life as a man and in the next
as a woman, or vice versa, as it chooses for its evolutionary needs.
It sometimes happens that the spirit who is to incarnate as the
opposite sex to the one chosen in the previous incarnation has
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not completely shed the personality (including the sexual
condition) of the previous life, and this affects his or her
perception of sexuality in the current life. Depending on the
degree of identification with the sexual condition of the past life,
we will find different situations, from the transsexual, who directly
identifies with the opposite sex in everything, and wants to
acquire the physiognomy with which they identify; the
homosexual who, without identifying with the opposite sex feels
the same sexual inclinations as in the previous life in which they
incarnated in the opposite sex to the current one; or the bisexual,
in whom there are sexual inclinations proper to their current
condition and to the past life.
What are the reasons for this lack of detachment from the
personality of the previous life?
The causes of this lack of detachment can be many and varied,
but in general they are due to deep-seated selfish attitudes in the
spirit that have used and made use of the sexual condition to
manifest themselves, and have meant the violation of the free
will of others, including freedom of feeling.
Any examples?
A spirit who, when incarnated as a man, was extremely
chauvinistic, and abused women. For example, he may have
forced a woman who did not love him to be his wife, and
therefore forced her to have sexual relations, or mistreated and
humiliated her during his life, and in general had the same
attitude of contempt towards all women. In this life he incarnates
having the same sexual condition that he despised, but retains
the personality of the previous life, with similar tendencies,
because not having overcome them they are strongly
impregnated in his spirit. Or a spirit who, in incarnating as a
woman, used her physical attractiveness and power of seduction
to dominate and subjugate men. In this life she incarnates having
the same sexual condition as those she abused, but retains the
personality of the previous life because it is strongly ingrained in
her, and thus retains all or part of the same sexual inclinations.
Do you mean that most people who have a partner are not paired
with their soul mate?
Yes, we have already said it. One can count on one’s fingertips
the earthly couples that are the union of kindred souls. Though, of
course, hardly anyone will admit that this is their case, that is, that
their union is not that of kindred souls.
Yes, but there will be people who have doubts about who their
soul mate is. I mean, how can you recognize your soul mate? I
understand that it must not be easy.
It would be easier if you acted according to your feelings and
there was more freedom in your world to love. But since this does
not happen, what was possible becomes complicated.
What are those difficulties that prevent two soul mates from
coming together as a couple when they are incarnated?
We have already said it. Because the human being on your
planet is still so steeped in selfishness and has little developed
capacity for love, he or she takes other factors than feelings of
love into account when choosing a mate. Although before
incarnating kindred souls have made it a point to unite as a
couple, once incarnated they often end up with other people.
And what are these factors? In other words, why can a union take
place without love?
There are different motives. It may be because of physical
attraction, material or emotional convenience, mental affinity,
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the need to be loved or the need to love.
This means that the motive that unites two people may be
different, because if it were a material interest in both, there would
be no need for pretense.
Indeed. It is often the case that in each of the spouses the motive
for the union is different. In one case it may be material interest
and in the other case physical attractiveness. For example,
unions between an unattractive millionaire who is attracted to
beautiful women and an attractive but penniless woman who
aspires to have money. In neither case are there feelings, only an
expectation of satisfying a desire, but both will probably pretend
that there is a feeling in order to hide their intentions. It will be a
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relationship where neither of them will be happy, although initially
there may be a relative satisfaction in seeing their expectations
fulfilled.
For many people are convinced that having similar tastes and
interests has a lot to do with compatibility as a couple, and that
feelings can arise as a result of this compatibility. For example,
marriage agencies prepare compatibility tests to try to find the
ideal partner for their clients based on their tastes, interests and
aspirations, with the idea that this increases the likelihood of an
affinity between them.
It will only be a mental affinity, never a sentimental one. Feelings
do not understand probabilities, nor can they be planned. They
have to arise spontaneously, even if they do not fit into one’s
mental schemes of “the ideal partner”, which are usually
stereotypes, such as the tall, handsome, romantic guy for
women, or the sexy, blonde, hot girl for men. These are just mental
fantasies that feed the imagination and have little to do with
feelings. If feelings worked by probability, kindred souls could
never be united with each other, since the probability of such a
union occurring by chance is very low. These unions by mental
affinity often have a time of apparent smooth sailing, but they
generate a feeling of emptiness within, the source of which is
difficult to identify, for in the eyes of the outside, which functions
very much with the mind, it seems that one has all that is needed
in life to be happy. However, the only thing that is needed to be
happy, which is feelings, is missing.
Let us now talk about people who come together out of a need
to be loved.
This is a fairly common reason. It usually corresponds to people
who have felt unloved in life or nostalgic for a love that they have
not known in this life, but that their inner self senses they have
experienced (in their past before their present life). They have
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such a great need to be loved that when someone is interested
in them as a partner they feel so grateful that they accept this
relationship regardless of their own feelings. They tend to be
people with low self-esteem. They feel unattractive and believe
that nobody will love them. They do not believe they have the
right to be happy. Many of these people have had a difficult
childhood, with huge emotional deficiencies, neglect or
situations of physical or psychological abuse. If they have not yet
freed themselves from the oppressive family environment, they
can use the relationship as an escape valve to free themselves
from this unbearable family relationship.
I think that there are also many people who join other people out
of fear of loneliness. Can the person who seeks a relationship out
of fear of loneliness be considered to have a need to be loved,
or is it for emotional convenience?
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Sometimes it is one thing and sometimes it is the other. There are
people who are afraid of loneliness and it is not because they
need to be loved, but for convenience, because they need
someone to please them in their desires, to make their life easier
or more comfortable, especially as they grow older, because
they fear old age and illness and do not want to be left alone at
the end of their lives. But it is true that in some cases the fear of
loneliness is a manifestation of the need to be loved.
Tell me now about the union that is sustained by the need to love.
Agreed. This type of relationship occurs when one or both of the
partners already has a well-developed capacity to love and
needs to manifest it in order to be fulfilled and feel happy. They
are also usually people who are nostalgic for having loved
intensely in a relationship that they have not known in this life, but
that their inner self senses that they have lived (in another life).
When this need to love and to find the loved one becomes very
pressing, it can happen, as in the case of those who need to be
loved, that the need to feel is imposed over one’s own feelings,
and the partner is chosen not on the basis of the feeling that
arises for them, but because of the need to love.
But is there anything wrong with the need to love? I say that if
there is no need to love there can be no feelings, because if there
were no need to love there would never be a search for a partner.
It seems a contradiction to the message of developing feelings,
doesn’t it?
As I said when we talked about people who need to be loved,
there is nothing wrong with feeling the need to love. As you say,
the need to love is linked to the capacity to love. People who
have a great capacity to love can love many people, but this
does not mean that they can fall in love with any of them,
because the feeling of love as a couple does not awaken with
just anyone. The problem comes when, out of a need to feel, one
forces oneself to feel what one does not feel, that is to say, forces
feelings, and in love relationships feelings cannot be forced, but
must occur spontaneously. Forcing feelings is different from
developing feelings, and what we are saying here is that forcing
feelings is not good, simply because it generates suffering instead
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of happiness. The person who is dominated by the need to love
also suffers from an emotional blindness that prevents them from
distinguishing love from the need to love. In other words, they
convince themselves that they are in love, when in reality they
are striving to feel love. They also tend not to look at whether or
not they are reciprocated in their supposed feelings of love. They
simply convince themselves that they are, or that if they are not
at that moment, it will be reciprocated if they give themselves
totally to the other person, that is that the other person will not be
able to resist their flood of feelings and will end up falling in love
with them.
But I also understand that not all love is the same. I say this
because there are people who say they are very fond of their
partner, who get along very well, but who do not feel the need to
have sexual relations with them. What is happening in these
cases?
This person feels a brotherly love for his or her spouse, as he or she
might feel for a brother or a friend, but is not in love with him or
her. It is not a couple’s love. He or she confuses one feeling with
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another.
And how does one know whether or not one’s love is a couple’s
love?
He who feels that something is missing in his relationship to fill him
completely, even if there are no quarrels or conflicts, knows that
he has not found true love. When one is not united to the kindred
soul, there is no complete affinity in the couple. The lack of affinity
manifests itself on all planes, sentimentally, mentally and sexually,
and this causes an emptiness within that is not filled. Those who
have experienced in this life the love of a kindred soul will know
how to distinguish it very well, because just the memory of the
loved one makes them vibrate inside and feel full. Those who
have not yet experienced in this life the feeling that is awakened
by the recognition of their kindred soul may have more doubts.
They will have to trust what they sense spiritually, for even if they
have not experienced it in this life, the feelings between kindred
souls are never destroyed and remain in the spirit forever, leaving
an indelible mark, even if the recall of past memories is
temporarily lost when they incarnate again. It is this sentimental
intuition that enables them to distinguish what is and what is not
true love.
What if one discovers that one loves the partner fraternally and
not as a couple? Should one continue the relationship or not?
If you want to be happy you should be honest with yourself and
your partner about what your feelings are and what they are not
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and act accordingly. There is no point in prolonging a relationship
when one of both knows that they are not in love, because they
are neither happy nor can you make the other happy. For
example, having unwanted sexual relations will be a source of
suffering for one partner and dissatisfaction for the other. And if
they stop having sex in order to avoid this, how is this different
from a brotherly relationship? In other words, that person loves his
or her partner as a brother or sister and lives the relationship as he
or she would live it with a brother or sister. It makes no sense for
them to continue the relationship as a couple, because they do
not live with their brother as a couple either.
There are people who find it difficult to take the step of separating
because they have conflicting feelings, because although they
recognize that they are not in love with their partner, they still
have great affection for them and do not want to lose the bond.
What would you say to them?
Recognizing that we do not feel love for our partner does not
necessarily mean that we have to dislike him or her, or that we
have to cut him or her out of our lives altogether. We simply have
to recognize the kind of feeling we have for someone and act to
make our life fit the kind of feeling we have. If there is a feeling of
friendship, that friendship can continue without forcing the
relationship to continue. If we do not admit this reality we will
come to feel rejection for that person, because we force
ourselves to live in a relationship that is not in line with our feelings
for that person.
Many people admit that they are not in love. They say that if it
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were up to them they would take the step of separating. But
because they don’t want to hurt the other person, they prefer to
continue the relationship. What do you have to say about this?
That the damage is done by prolonging the relationship, because
if they do not love him or her they cannot make him or her happy.
If they prolong the relationship, they prevent them from finding a
partner who does reciprocate their feelings, and they are also
deceiving them, because they make them believe that they love
them as a partner when in reality it is not true. Prolonging the
relationship in these circumstances is more harmful than breaking
up, because there are no emotional ties. It will be a fictitious
union, a forced relationship that will generate suffering for both
partners.
There are people who, if their partner does not agree to leave the
relationship, believe that they should continue it because they
consider that as it is a couple’s issue they must both agree on the
decision they have to take. Are they right?
No. If one partner does not want to continue the relationship, it is
enough to leave the relationship. It does not matter if the partner
does not agree with that decision. No one, not even the partner,
has the right to force the other to continue, as this would be an
infringement of their personal free will. Often this argument is
nothing more than an excuse that reflects a lack of courage to
leave the relationship, and one expects the other to take the
steps that one does not dare to take.
But doesn’t it often happen that when a person tells their partner
that they are not in love and want to leave the relationship, it is
the partner themselves who takes it very badly and insists on
continuing the relationship in spite of everything?
It is true, because they refuse to admit reality. They are
comfortable, accustomed to this relationship and fear the
changes that are going to take place in their lives. They prefer
the bad things known than the good to be known. This is greatly
influenced by the education one has received, which, if it is of a
traditional type, considers that the break-up of a couple,
especially if there is a marriage contract involved, is something
dishonorable for a person’s reputation. It is also influenced by
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attachment or possessive love, that egosentiment that simulates
love, which makes the person who suffers from it have a
tendency to consider the partner as his or her property and to
take very badly to lose that property. Despite being unhappy, the
person may have been pleased with his or her pretensions and is
not willing to give up what he or she is used to and believes they
belong to him or her. Unfortunately, because of attachment
there are very few people who are willing to admit a change of
sentimental status. In other words, they do not accept the
change from being a partner to being a friend and interpret the
change of status as a rejection or contempt. As they do not
respect the will of the other, they sometimes try to force the
continuity of the relationship using victimhood, persuasion,
blackmail and even aggression as weapons, causing their now
ex-partner great emotional and/or physical suffering that reflects
the little love they felt for them. The ex-partner is often forced to
avoid any kind of contact in order not to be attacked psychically
or physically, to the point that they wish they would never meet
the person who was once their partner.
I understand that there are women who, for fear of being killed by
their husband or partner, make the decision not to leave the
relationship. What should they do in this situation?
If they continue that relationship they are already dead in life,
because for the inner self to live like that is worse than dying. It is
better to fight to be free to be happy, even if you lose your life in
the attempt, than to lose your whole life under the tyranny of an
abuser.
Everyone has the right to be free and happy and no one has the
right more than oneself to decide about one’s own life and
feelings.
There are people who argue that although they are not in love,
they do not separate because their partner has never given them
any reason to do so, because they have a cordial relationship,
they have never had any arguments and there has never been
any abuse. What would you say to them?
Sometimes it is believed that there must be an unpleasant reason
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for leaving a relationship, for example physical or psychological
abuse, or that one of the partners has some kind of addiction
(drugs, alcohol, gambling) that ruins a normal cohabitation.
People who take this view, that is, that if there is no abuse they
have no justification for leaving the relationship, are usually those
who have received a traditional religious upbringing, because it
seems that in this upbringing abuse is the only case in which a
separation from the spouse is relatively tolerated, and they feel
obliged to make the relationship last for life regardless of whether
or not there are feelings between them as a couple. However,
this is not the case. All that is necessary to leave a relationship is
that there is no mutual partner feeling.
So, if not from God, where does the idea of the indissolubility of
marriage come from?
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In your selfish and mercantile mentality you put a price on
everything and establish title deeds to everything that exists, to
which you attach more value than your own life, for you do not
care to kill or die for them. You take it for granted that everything
can be bought and sold, and that if it were not beyond your
control you would seize even the air you breathe or even the rays
of sunlight and sell them at a price of gold to those who have less
power or ambition to say “this is mine”. In the same way you
believe that people, their will, their feelings, can be bought. You
believe that with the contract you sign in what you call marriage
you are entering into some commercial transaction, in which
some believe they are buying a person’s will and feelings, and
others convince themselves that they are bound by the contract
to surrender their will, their decision-making ability, their freedom
and their feelings to their spouse. In the height of selfish delirium,
you have made yourselves believe that the notary of this
contract is God, and you have convinced yourselves that this
contract must be fulfilled at all costs, regardless of your own
happiness or that of others, otherwise you will be dispossessed of
all your “goods” in the next life, like a person whose property is
seized when he or she cannot repay a bank loan. For know that
all this is a great lie invented by human selfishness. That God has
given you complete freedom with regard to your person, your
feelings and your thoughts, and that you do not transgress any
divine law at all when you fight for your freedom to feel and think.
No one can take away your right to be free, to decide about
your own life and feelings in any way and under any
circumstances, least of all in the name of God.
And what about the children who are older? Many of them
already have the knowledge of the cause and do not take this
change in their lives well.
Often the separation comes after years of enduring. Consciously
or unconsciously, the message conveyed to the children during
that time was that family unity comes before personal happiness.
Therefore, children tend to interpret what is happening from that
point of view. That is why they perceive the break-up as
something negative, because they see it as contrary to what they
had previously believed to be right and good. In order for them
to be able to deal with what they are experiencing, it is necessary
to deprogram them from the education they were given and
make them understand now that freedom of feeling and
personal happiness are above all else and that no one should
renounce them under any circumstances.
Well, I think that by now most people know that they are free, at
least in Western countries, and that the law protects individual
freedom, providing for the right to divorce and punishing those
who impede its exercise, right?
This is true. And this represents an enormous spiritual advance that
has been achieved with enormous sacrifices and struggles, which
unfortunately have been opposed only by the religious
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authorities, who again, instead of contributing to the spiritual
progress of mankind, have done their utmost to hinder and
obstruct it. And the most regrettable thing is that they have done
so in the name of God. But religious customs and norms are
deeply rooted in societies, and sometimes, though they have no
power to prohibit, they have the power to influence
psychologically.
Know that still in your time and in your society, although there are
few arranged marriages, there are still many unions without love.
And it happens that when a person becomes aware of this and
wants to undo this union, he or she has many difficulties because
of these religious norms, as we mentioned earlier.
But it seems that Jesus did not have a partner during his life and
this did not prevent him from loving his neighbor and carrying out
his mission, did it?
We have talked about this before. Jesus is like everyone else. He
also has his kindred soul, but it did not incarnate simultaneously
with him, which does not mean that he did not maintain contact
with it. For beings of Jesus’ evolutionary level, the fact that the
loved one is not simultaneously incarnated with him is not an
insurmountable obstacle, for due to their capacity and sensitivity
they have relative ease in detaching themselves from the
material plane and are thus able to contact their kindred beings
on the spiritual plane.
But it’s not so easy to get it right and find true love the first time.
Exactly because it is not easy to get it right, you should allow
yourselves to be able to turn back once you become aware that
you are not in love. What is really sad is not that unions occur
without love, but that you try so hard to prolong them by force,
establishing earthly chains that prevent you from releasing them
once you become aware that there is no love.
I think that young people are more aware that they are free to
decide who they want and don’t want to be with and are less
hesitant to leave a relationship if they don’t want to continue it.
Yes, it is true. Young people have more freedom now, especially
in Western countries, because they have not experienced such a
repressive upbringing. Above all, they have more freedom in
sexuality and they know that the fact of having sexual relations
with someone does not oblige them to be with that person for
life. And that is a good thing. The problem for young people is not
so much to leave relationships when they want to, but to know
how to find true love, because most of them get together for
reasons other than love. Despite having more freedom in life, they
are not taking advantage of it to develop feelings.
Why does this happen to young people, if they have lived through
a time of greater freedom?
Now there is greater sexual freedom, but there is still no freedom
of feeling, because sentimental repression has yet to be
overcome.
Your way of bringing up children is still very materialistic and not
very spiritual. Children are not yet sufficiently educated in
feelings. They are not taught in life to seek happiness by
developing their feelings, they are not taught to value love and
to have a spiritual outlook on life. On the one hand, they develop
their minds, their intelligence and they are taught knowledge
that will help them to have a profession in life. This is the academic
training in schools. Outside of school, what is experienced in
families and what is transmitted through the media and social
relations is that happiness is achieved through the satisfaction of
vanity. That is, they are taught to value external qualities that
make one stand out from others, such as physical attractiveness,
intelligence, success, fame, power and money.
Many young people have taken refuge in the satisfaction of
whim and pleasure, in entertainment, in sex without feeling, in
drugs, as a way of escaping the emptiness and dissatisfaction
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they feel in life. They try to fill with pleasure and fun what should
be filled with feeling, and in the absence of feeling, the inner self
becomes depressed.
A large part of the youth suffers because they are trapped by the
desire to satisfy their vanity and because their sensitivity to
feelings is repressed or suppressed. They lack meaning in life.
The young people of this age need to understand that life does
have a meaning beyond the amusement of gratification of whim
and pleasure. To be truly fulfilled, they need to develop and live
their feelings in complete freedom, as well as their spirituality. This
is the only way to be happy.
Some people have the notion that the reason why young people
have turned to consumerism, banality and sexual promiscuity is
that the moral values of the past have been lost, that there has
been a regression in spirituality. Are they right?
No. As we have already said, they take refuge in the material to
escape the emptiness inside. Things were never better in the past.
If the youth of the past did not reflect the same attitudes, it was
not because their values were better than today’s, but because
they were more repressed and suffered more economic
hardship. Religious puritanism stifled the free development of
sexuality and condemned it to secrecy. Young people were free
neither in their feelings nor in their sexuality and lived repressed
and fearful, because in the eyes of religious puritanism everything
was a sin. In the past, sexuality was almost completely repressed
and was only allowed within marriages. And since in many
marriages there was no love, but rather they were an imposition,
sexual experiences for many people were horrible and traumatic.
Many people had a double life, the one that was given
outwardly to maintain social appearances and the hidden one,
where many found an escape valve to a life full of taboos and
repressions. This way of acting, that of double standards, still
persists today, especially in older people who have lived a
repressive upbringing, accustomed to having two faces for fear
of what people will say.
On the other side, the person who fights for his or her feelings, to
be by the side of the person he or she loves, and who suffers
misunderstanding, humiliation, blackmail and physical and/or
psychological abuse, and who is considered by society, the
community or the family to be an adulterer, unfaithful or immoral
person, is the one who is truly advancing in his or her feelings. It is
the one who is truly in harmony with the spiritual law of love and
who will enjoy in the spiritual world the true happiness so hard won
in the physical world, for he or she will find that there will no longer
be any obstacle to the free manifestation of feelings.
But can it not happen that even if people want to fight for their
feelings, they are prevented by circumstances from achieving
their goal? Continuing with the previous example, what happens
if the husband does not agree to leave the relationship and forces
the wife to continue it? In fact, there are women who are
murdered by their ex-husbands or ex-partners because they do
not accept the break-up of the relationship. Or what happens
when the legislation of a country rejects divorce and even
condemns the woman who leaves her husband to death? What
option is left to that woman?
It is true that you may encounter many difficulties, because
unfortunately in your world there is very little respect for freedom
of feeling, especially for the most defenseless. However, respect
for freedom of feeling has increased in comparison to the past
and is recognized as a right in the laws of many countries. In
Western countries, divorce is a right and there are laws that
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protect against gender-based violence, although it is true that in
other countries the situation is intolerable and there is still much
room for improvement. But even if you have everyone against
you, I tell you that it will be worth it, because there is no better
reason to fight for than feelings, because it is the basis of spiritual
evolution and happiness. The one who chooses to fight for the
feelings will have the greatest of rewards, which is the happiness
felt when reunited with the loved one, to be able to feel and live
the feelings to the fullest. Though they may lose their physical life
in the attempt, because of the hindrances of human selfishness,
and thus fail on the material plane, let them be assured that what
he has sown in the physical life they will reap as a reward on the
spiritual plane.
On the contrary, those who do not fight for their feelings, who
repress and suppress them, and at the same time force and strive
to maintain a relationship without feelings, are already suffering
the consequences of their lack of courage and will have to return
in later lives to overcome what they have left unresolved in this
life.
Can it happen that a person has found his or her soul mate and
still does not value him or her and desires to have sexual relations
with other people, and even cheats on them?
Yes, when there is no firmness in the feelings, when there is no
struggle to care for and develop them, and when egos are
allowed to get in the way, this is often the case. In spirits that are
not very sensitive to feelings, the biological sexual instinct
predominates over the undeveloped feeling, and this results in
seeking the satisfaction of the body rather than the happiness of
the spirit. Sexual desire at this stage is aroused primarily by
physical attractiveness and novelty. When there is satisfaction of
the body, interest in the relationship is lost and new relationships
are sought. There is no special preference for anyone in particular
at this time. As the spirit progresses in the development of feelings
it becomes bored with the purely sexual relationship, for once the
desire is satisfied it feels an emptiness within, and seeks something
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more in a relationship, that is, to love and be loved. And this is
where sentimental affinity comes into play, because if it does not
exist, the inner fullness cannot be reached. Then begins the
struggle for feelings, to find happiness in the relationship. On this
path, the spirit will live through innumerable experiences of
personal relationships, where it will experience everything,
instincts, feelings and egosentiments, and depending on the
degree of happiness and unhappiness that it experiences, it will
gradually perfect its sensitivity and its capacity to love. It will
gradually discard egosentiments and develop feelings of love. It
will be more and more clear about its feelings and will also be
firmer when it comes to living in accordance with what it feels. It
will also gradually show more respect for the freedom of feeling
of others.
Jealousy
We could define jealousy as an uneasiness that a person suffers
from the fear of losing someone they consider their property.
Jealousy in a couple’s relationship is characteristic of a person
with active, possessive and absorbing attachment, as they
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consider their partner to be their property and demand exclusive
attention from them. This is why they become enraged when their
partner shows any attention or affection towards other people.
Jealousy usually manifests itself as a permanent distrust of the
partner and a recurrent obsession with the idea that the partner
may be unfaithful. This obsession leads to an exhaustive control
over the other person’s life under the pretext of avoiding the
possibility of infidelity, and makes them have animosity towards
those people who are related to their spouse, especially those
they consider as possible competitors as a partner. Jealousy can
feed other egosentiments, which are used to exert control over
the spouse’s life, such as aggressiveness, absorption, victimhood
or spite. The jealous person during the relationship is often the
scorned person when the relationship breaks up. The jealous
person reflects poverty and weakness of feeling. First, because
they do not pay attention to the other person’s happiness. They
think only of satisfying their desire for domination without thinking
of the great harm they cause to their partner. Secondly, because
they do not trust that the bond of feelings is sufficient to maintain
the union of the couple. That is why they resort to coercion and
intimidation. When there is true love, feelings are trusted and
there is no fear of interference from third parties. If a third person
appears in the relationship, it is a symptom of poor or non-existent
feelings.
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The way you put it reminds me of what Don Quixote’s character
ends up feeling for Dulcinea del Toboso.
It is a good example of what fascination and sentimental
obsession are all about.
Obsession is all about the mind and little about feelings, to the
extent that one can come to believe that what one thinks is what
one feels. The lack of attention to feelings makes them not even
worry about whether they are reciprocated or not. They tend to
be people who do not act sincerely, as they are often afraid of
rejection and are unwilling to admit it. Their aim is to get the
desired person at any cost, even going beyond their will if
necessary. That is why they do not openly express their intentions,
but act cunningly to get what they want without giving the other
person a chance to say no. If they are physically beautiful, they
believe they can bend the other person’s will and feelings
through seduction. If they are intelligent, they study the other
person’s weaknesses and use that knowledge to win them over
through persuasion, flattery and satisfying the other person’s
needs and whims. If they are not very sensitive spirits, if they do
not succeed in these ways, they will use other methods that
violate free will even more, such as blackmail, intimidation,
coercion and violence.
What would happen if they got the person they wanted? Would
they be happy?
No. For a while they feel the satisfaction of having achieved what
they wanted. But when they realize that the reality does not live
up to their expectations, they suffer great disappointment and
quickly become disappointed with the relationship. In their eyes,
their partner, whom they once saw as a god or goddess, now
becomes ordinary and vulgar to them, and they gradually lose
interest in them. They often blame the other for the relationship
not working out, when in fact their dissatisfaction comes from the
lack of feeling behind the fascination. However, they can
become possessive if they perceive that other people are
interested in their partner, because they consider her a hard-
earned trophy that is their property. And then they neither live nor
let live, as they are neither happy in the relationship nor allow the
other person to free themselves from it and seek happiness
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elsewhere. It is like the capricious child who kicks when the
parents do not agree to buy him a toy he wants and, when he
gets it, he plays for a little while and then gets tired of it. But if
another child is interested in the toy then he becomes interested
in it again, not because it is attractive to him again, but because
he does not want to give up what he consider his property.
Does it mean that they should break off the previous relationship
in order to unite with the person they love?
A loveless relationship is already broken by the mere fact that
love is missing. You just need to recognize it and act accordingly.
We have talked about this before. If you do not love your partner,
you should be honest and have the courage to tell him or her
and then formally end the relationship. This is independent of
whether you love someone else or not. If you also love someone
else, you should admit the reality of your feelings and then
express them to the loved one, in order to know whether there is
a correspondence of feelings or not, and then accept the other
person’s decision, whatever it may be. If there is a
correspondence of feelings and a willingness to be together as a
couple, nothing and no one can or should prevent it, least of all
the feeling of guilt, because spiritually it has no basis.
But isn’t it true that there are people who have had no bad
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experiences in life with regard to love relationships and yet are
still afraid to love or to fall in love? What is the reason for this fear
in these cases?
Emotional trauma can come from a previous life. Even if the
circumstances of the past are not retained in the memory, if the
trauma has not been overcome, it remains impregnated in the
spirit and is therefore retained in later life, and manifests itself in
the form of fear. People with a fear of love have no illusion about
life, because they believe that happiness cannot exist for them,
and they do not trust that anyone will truly love them. They feel
like the stray dog that has been beaten for a long time by an
abusive owner from whom it managed to escape. One day this
dog comes across some sensitive people who take pity on it and
decide to take it in for loving care. When one of them comes to
pet it, the fear of mistreatment makes the dog believe that the
hand that rises to pet it is a hand that rises to mistreat it and it runs
away terrified from the people who could have given it a better
life. This is what happens to many people who, because of fear,
lose their chance to be happy in life.
But there are people who, despite courageously fighting for their
feelings, do not achieve their goal of living together with the
person they love, or do not manage to free themselves from
forced relationships because other people prevent them from
doing so. We have already talked about gender-based violence
and the women who have been murdered for defending their
right to freedom of feeling. Have they failed in their fight?
You never fail when you fight for your feelings. If, because of
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human misunderstanding and selfishness, that person does not
get to taste the happiness of love on the physical plane, rest
assured that they will be rewarded on the spiritual plane. And the
courage they showed in their struggle to live according to what
they felt will be an evolutionary achievement that will live on
forever in their spirit. They will have clarity and courage of feeling,
valuable spiritual qualities hard-won in the trials they have
experienced in their incarnations.
These will be qualities that they will manifest from then on and
forever, and this will help them to be happy and prevent them
from falling into the traps that made them unhappy in the past.
Sentimental confusion
Sentimental confusion is an emotional state that arises when
people force themselves to feel what they do not feel, or to
repress what they really feel, or both. If they persist in this attitude
for a long time, there comes a moment when they can no longer
distinguish between what they really feel and what they force
themselves to feel. And this is the confusion that these people
have, that they confuse feeling with “must-feel” and substitute
feeling for obligation. People who force themselves to feel what
they do not feel, suffer because this obligation to feel exhausts
them and generates emptiness, since feelings cannot be forced,
they either occur spontaneously or not at all. They can also suffer
from the repression of a true feeling, because they believe that
they should not or do not have the right to feel it. However, the
self-deception motivated by sentimental confusion makes them
believe that they suffer from remorse for having awakened an
inappropriate feeling, that this is the cause of their unhappiness
and that they must struggle to eliminate it.
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RELATIONS WITH THE CHILDHOOD IN THE LIGHT OF THE LAW OF
LOVE
Do not set any conditions for loving them. There are people who
do not love their children, they only use them to give themselves
importance, to boast about them because they are intelligent,
because they have some quality that makes them better in the
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eyes of others, and if they do not have these qualities they look
down on them, and this greatly affects their self-esteem. He who
truly loves his children loves them as they are, whether they are
more or less handsome, more or less intelligent, more or less
determined.
Well, I don’t think they would be very happy about it, to be honest.
I think the normal thing to do would be to report the boss for
mistreatment at work.
Of course they don’t like it, because nobody likes to be hit. If you
consider hitting an adult a criminal and deplorable act, why
don’t you have the same criteria when adults hit children, who
are also weaker and cannot defend themselves? What you do
not want for yourselves, do not do to others, especially not to the
weakest and most defenseless, which are children. How sad it is
to observe how some parents, when their children hit other
children, punish them by doing the same thing they have just
forbidden them to do, that is, hitting them. What can the child
learn when he sees the adult doing the same thing he is censuring
himself, apart from the fact that the strongest is the one who
imposes his law through violence? Never hit a child and never use
the excuse that it is for his or her own good, to educate and teach
him or her discipline. Those who use physical punishment do not
educate, they only show their inability to educate, their lack of
tact, patience, tenderness and gentleness towards children. If we
fight against abuse and gender violence, equal or more
emphasis should be placed on fighting against child abuse.
Some people argue that the ideal would be not to use physical
punishment and agree with limiting its use, but that there are
children who are very rebellious and do not listen to reason, and
that in these cases it is necessary to have a “heavy hand”, that is,
to apply more forceful measures. What do you think about this?
Those who believe that educating their children, or children in
general, means imposing oneself on them and, in order to submit
them to their will, use verbal or physical aggression with the aim
of scaring them so that, out of fear, they end up obeying, reflect
their own incapacity and spiritual immaturity. When there is love,
sensitivity and understanding, there is always another way of
doing things, but if there is not, any excuse is a good one to bring
out the bad attitudes one carries inside.
But isn’t it true that many of the adults who abuse children were
themselves abused as children? I mean, they have not had a
good example to follow.
In such cases they should remember how they felt when they
were abused and how it hurt them to be treated with contempt
and insensitivity, so that they will try not to repeat with their
children or with any other child what they did not like for
themselves. There are many people who have been abused,
physically or psychologically, as children to a greater or lesser
extent, because in your world selfishness still prevails in all aspects.
Those who have taken good note of the experience and
remember the suffering they experienced will try to spare their
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children, and childhood in general, the suffering they have
experienced.
Some people think that education today is worse than in the past.
That children now learn little because these new educational
methods are too soft and all they do is make children tease their
teachers and pay little attention in class. What do you think about
this?
They are completely wrong. It is true that some people, especially
those with a rigid way of being, seem to be nostalgic for the
education of the past. They are the ones who tend to agree with
the proverb “spare the rod and spoil the child”. In times past,
religious schools were highly valued by some parents because
they had a reputation for educating with “discipline”, as God
intended. In reality, what they called “educating with discipline”
consisted of forcing obedience on students through fear, threats
and physical punishment, making the lives of these students bitter
who, more than children, were frightened little recruits whose
faces had lost all hint of the spontaneity, sensitivity and joy of
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childhood. And all this, moreover, was done in the name of God.
This makes children feel unwanted and try to get their parents’
attention. They may use the tactic of lowering their academic
performance because they know that in this way parents will pay
attention to them. Or it simply happens that children feel so
emotionally bad that they lose interest in everything, including
their studies. Due to ignorance and lack of attention towards their
children, parents believe that their children’s problem is that they
are lazy in their studies and that they need to go to a school
where more discipline is imposed, with more authoritarian
teachers who force them to study more. And the problem is not
in the school but in the lack of attention from parents.
If they are only valued if they are intelligent and good students,
children can have problems with their self-esteem and also feel
under excessive pressure to study. Children should be loved
unconditionally as they are and cared for emotionally so that
they can be happy.
Sometimes it also happens that the adult tries to make the child
conform to rules that are absurd, as they greatly limit their
freedom and spontaneity, and then the child rebels against
these rules, which he or she considers unfair. It is absurd to ask a
child not to play or to sit still permanently. As they are unfair, it is
impossible to sustain them through reasoning, so some parents
resort to imposition and coercion.
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So should children be allowed to do whatever they want, even if
what they want is harmful to themselves or others?
Not everything. Use common sense. Everything in its own time.
Children’s freedom and responsibility should increase as they
grow older and acquire greater abilities. When children are
young they are not aware of many of the dangers, they cannot
be left alone in the street without supervision, as they can commit
imprudent acts such as crossing the street without looking. They
should be taught progressively what is dangerous for them and
what is dangerous for others. They must be taught to respect
other children, not to hit, not to insult, to assume the
responsibilities of their age, such as doing their homework, picking
up their toys when they have finished playing, etc. No more and
no less than a child can assume according to their age, always
trying to be respectful, understanding, affectionate and patient
with them, and respecting their freedom and sensitivity.
But where is the limit? For example, if the child does not want to
go to school, or to do homework, should he or she be forced or
left alone?
Use your common sense. Instead of trying to force them to do
things, talk to them, talk to them about the importance of
learning, stimulate them, share with them the time to do their
homework, make it fun and enjoyable and you will see that the
child will respond much better than if you force them to do it.
And how can we get the child to learn what is necessary but at
the same time boring or tedious?
Make it fun and share this moment with them, make them feel
cared for and supported in what they are doing, as this stimulates
them to continue. We have already said that children have fun
playing and through play they can be taught many things
without finding it tedious, and so they themselves will want to
learn because learning will be fun for them.
But aren’t there times when if you are too benevolent with your
child, they become demanding and capricious and use tantrums
to get their own way? What can you do in such cases?
It is true that there are parents who allow children to do even
what is dangerous for them and give in to their every whim, out
of laziness, weakness of character or because they no longer
listen to the child’s complaint, and this causes the child to
become demanding and capricious and to use his or her
cunning to bend the parents’ will. In such cases, act firmly, do not
give in to the blackmail the child tries to use, but never respond
with violence or aggression. When the child acts in a despot-like
manner, that is when you should pay the least attention to him or
her. If they notice that when they act in this way they are ignored
and do not get anything they demand, they will eventually tire of
it. Help them to become aware of their own selfish attitudes
through dialogue and reflection.
What are the reasons other than love that drive parents to have
children?
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Often this is done because there is a kind of obligation to
continue the family lineage, or because it is convenient for the
children to take care of the parents when they are older. There
are couples who reach a certain age and still do not wish to have
children because it implies making changes in their lives that they
are not very well disposed to. But they have them anyway
because biologically their chances of conceiving decrease with
age. As the saying goes, “they are past their prime”. Sometimes
children are conceived as a way of trapping the spouse and
forcing them to continue the relationship when they fear a
breakdown of the relationship, or as a desperate attempt to save
a relationship that is not working.
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LOVING THE NEIGHBOR IN THE LIGHT OF THE LAW OF LOVE
There are others who confuse spirituality and religion, and allow
themselves to be carried away by religion because it is an easy
path, believing that following rituals is enough to achieve a
privileged place in “heaven” and substituting spiritual work with
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themselves for religious fervor, under the delusion that the latter is
pleasing to God.
Any examples of how true spiritual laws are replaced by the laws
of selfishness?
Yes, in your world, you have replaced the law of spiritual justice
with the selfish “law of the funnel”, that is, the wide for yourselves
and the narrow for others. Each one sees as fair what favors
oneself and as unfair what favors others. Although it is the same
thing, you see it differently depending on whether it is you who
do it or others who do it. You justify your own selfish actions and
criticize those of others with fervor, even though they are the
same thing. And the one who feels he has the most power to act
is the one who ends up imposing his law on the law of others. For
example, those in power often enjoy privileges that others do not
have, such as disproportionate salaries, abusive pensions and tax
exemptions, while the rest of the citizens are held to much stricter
standards.
You have substituted the law of love for the selfish law of the
satisfaction of wealth and success, and so you understand doing
good to mean acting to achieve the satisfaction of your material
interests and desires, success, fame, a comfortable life with an
abundance of whims and comforts, even at the cost of the
suffering of your fellowmen, and you understand evil when you
experience the slightest deprivation of those. But this is not so. To
do good, rightly understood, is to act in harmony with the law of
love, and to do evil reflects acts contrary to the law of love,
generally selfish acts which generate suffering and unhappiness.
You have replaced the law of free will with the law of the
strongest. That is to say, the stronger forces the weaker to do as
he pleases.
That is why in your world much attention is given to who says
what, what their position, their title, their rank, and not whether
what they say is true or not. The humble ones are not listened to
even if they speak the truth, while the powerful ones, the ones
who have the fame, the success, the ones who exalt themselves
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with ranks and titles invented by human beings, can say
whatever they want and whatever they say will be taken into
consideration. Many of these celebrities convey false messages
that serve to manipulate and fanaticize people, and yet they are
considered to be above others. This dominance of the “law of
the strongest” and little respect for the law of free will is evident
when it comes to religious authorities. How is it possible that
people who consider themselves spiritually advanced are the
most intolerant, uncomprehending, rigid, who only make it a
point to scrupulously follow rules and rituals and criticize those
who do not, who readily condemn others in their actions and
behavior, and who place so little emphasis on correcting
themselves in selfish bad habits? Is not tolerance and
understanding of the ideas of others a spiritual virtue? Where is
this virtue in them?
But I understand that at least today there are many people who
recognize these selfish behaviors, who recognize the
manipulation that has taken place of spirituality within religions,
and who are going on a search for true spiritual knowledge.
This is a good thing, but it is not enough to know. It is necessary to
recognize what is true and separate it from what is false, because
not all that glitters is gold, even if it bears a supposed stamp of
spiritual knowledge. The most important thing is to put into
practice in oneself what one learns about feelings and selfishness,
otherwise no progress will be made. I mean, do not confuse
spiritual advancement with the fact of knowing certain spiritual
knowledge. If the knowledge learned, which should serve to
advance the development of feelings, is used to give free rein to
selfishness, thinly disguised in the guise of spirituality, one falls into
the same trap into which the religious hierarchs have fallen.
There are people who start on the path of helping others in the
right way by receiving the spiritual help they need to do so. But it
often happens that people are not satisfied with what they
receive, but would like to receive more and to have more
capacity than they have because they feel good in that
situation. But the capacity of the inner self does not increase
overnight, but with a great effort, with a long time of evolution, it
requires many lifetimes of constancy in the elimination of
selfishness and the development of feelings. But there are many
people who want to bypass this personal work. They would like a
wand to magically touch them and turn them into magicians
capable of the greatest wonders. They would like to be filled not
only with love, but with the praise and admiration of others, and
this ambition drives them to believe that what they desire is a
reality. It is then that their own defect makes them believe that
the thoughts that their own selfishness suggests to them are a
message from spiritual guides, and that what is now being done
with the intention of gaining prominence is a selfless help to
others. The aim is no longer to advance spiritually, but only to
appear to do so. Some people are more aware of this than
others, for selfishness has very subtle and suggestive ways of
convincing us. If a person is not aware of this, they will believe
that they are advancing spiritually when in fact they are only
increasing their selfishness. There are forms of selfishness that
especially interfere with the development of love of neighbor,
and if not countered, people will replace the intention to love
their neighbor with the intention to take advantage of their
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neighbor.
How does envy manifest itself in proud people and what exactly
do they envy?
Proud people, in contrast to vain people, do not usually envy
people for what they have materially, but rather for matters
related to feelings. The greatest cause of envy in proud people is
in emotional relationships. If they have not yet found love and are
not happy, they may be envious of the feelings of love that exist
between other people.
Let us take an example. The envious proud one falls in love with
a person. If this person does not reciprocate because he loves
someone else, then the envious person will envy the receiver of
that love, because he considers that the other person has what
he desires for himself. That is to say, he will arouse animosity
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towards the person whom he considers his competitor, because
he considers that he has deprived him of his love. The proud
person, trapped by his envy of feelings, tries hard not to make his
sentimental reality known. He hides his feelings from others, while
at the same time subtly trying to get what he wants, without
openly expressing it, because he is afraid of rejection. He will try
to outdo his supposed rival to win the person he supposedly loves.
He may make use of gallantry, good manners, suggestion, charm
and persuasion. Faced with the impossibility of achieving his goal,
he withdraws into himself in sadness, anger and impotence. He
isolates himself and rejects the help that can be given to him to
get out of his situation. He can cause deeper wounds to feelings
than the vain one, because he knows feelings better and can use
his knowledge to hurt feelings. For example, he can plot to
generate discord between the couple and give the person he
loves to understand that their partner does not really love them.
If he succeeds in sowing doubt, he will take advantage of this to
become the surrogate. Blinded by envy, he does not realize that
he is violating the free will of the person he supposedly loves, as
he does not respect his loved one’s will and do not admit that his
feelings are directed at someone else and not at them.
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antipathy, repulsion and resentment to hatred. The impossibility
of getting what one wants also generates anger, impotence and
sadness.
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But aren’t some people ambitious for noble goals, such as world
peace or the eradication of hunger or war? Are they acting
wrongly?
These are not ambitions, but aspirations. The difference between
aspiration and ambition in the sense that we are using the word
here is that ambitious people are driven not by noble ideals but
by selfish ideals, and therefore has no scruples in their actions.
Ambitious people never stop in their desire to possess and
dominate, because they are never satisfied with what they have.
In other words, ambition is insatiable and boundless. Ambitious
people have no respect for any ethical or moral code. They have
the concept that the end justifies the means, and therefore do
not respect free will. This is why they tend to impose their criteria
on others and do not admit failure. They get very angry when
their expectations are not met and tend to look for more
aggressive and harmful ways to try to achieve their goal. That is
to say, if they cannot get what they want by the easy way, then
they do it by the hard way. This is why ambition is rarely satisfied
without harm to others.
And how can we tell the difference between someone who acts
with true kindness and someone who only pretends to?
Kind people act with sincerity and selflessness and maintain
consistency between what they say and what they do. The
hypocrite pretends and contradicts himself or herself constantly,
saying one thing and doing something quite different. This puts
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them on display. For example, they often boast of being humble,
when people who are modest never boast of the good they do
for others. It is enough for them to do so to fill themselves up.
Meanwhile, hypocrites do nothing for anyone unless they get
something in return. Hypocrites will at some point make a mistake
and expose their selfish purpose, and at that point it will be
possible to unmask them.
Can you talk to me now about the desire for the spotlight?
Yes, in fact, we have already talked about the desire for the
spotlight and we are not going to say too much about it, as it
would be like repeating ourselves. By way of summary, we can
say that the desire for the spotlight is the desire to be the center
of attention, to be noticed by others. The desire to be in the
spotlight is most intense in the vanity stage, because of the desire
to obtain fame, success, admiration and praise from others. It can
also occur in the stages of pride and haughtiness, and in these
cases it is usually motivated by an emptiness of feeling and a
desire to be liked. The desire for the spotlight in people who are
in the stage of pride or haughtiness is called arrogance. The
arrogant person is one who feels superior to others and acts with
arrogance and despotism.
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THE TEN COMMANDMENTS IN THE LIGHT OF THE LAW OF LOVE
Man, I’m glad that at least some truth has been left behind.
This is not to say that they have not been subject to manipulation,
modification and additions.
I thought so. And what has been manipulated and what hasn’t?
If you want we can go through them one by one. Some of the
manipulations you can see for yourselves, since they are more
recent and evident, simply by comparing what the Old
Testament text says with the Decalogue that has become official
in the Catholic Church.
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with all your soul, and with all your strength.”. The second is this:
you shall love your neighbor as yourself. But the text of
Deuteronomy says: “You shall have no other gods before me. You
shall not make for yourself an image or any likeness of anything
that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is
in the water under the earth. Thou shalt not bow down thyself to
any image, nor honor it.”
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blame the discomfort on others than to go deeper into oneself to
find out where the discomfort comes from.
But can there be real cases of negative spirit influence, and are
there people who are possessed by evil spirits or possessed by
demons?
There is no such thing as demoniacs because there is no such
thing as the devil. Most of the “demoniacs” in the Scriptures were
actually mentally ill, people with very strong psychological
disorders, some of them caused by highly traumatic
circumstances, while others may have been victims of infectious
diseases such as rabies. But it is true that when one generates
egosentiments one can attract the influence of negative spirits
that feed them even more. And it is not because a curse has
been put on them and is effective, but it is a self-induced process.
But it is true that people can be influenced to a greater or lesser
extent by possessive spirits for different reasons: some because
they have asked to contact negative spirits, others because they
have a weakness that attracts their influence, such as drug
addiction, or because they have highly negative selfish attitudes.
Other influences occur because the incarnate has committed
negative acts in the past against the harassing discarnate spirit,
and the incarnate has a desire to make amends for the harm
done. But normally this influence is quite limited, usually limited to
generating negative thoughts in the victim’s mind, and never
becomes a possession. People who have the gift of mediumship
may be more strongly disturbed by negative spirits, as their very
nature favors contact with the spirit world predisposes them to
more intense contact. But this will only be the case if they are
driven by base instincts or perverse attitudes. The cases of
possession that you see in scary movies are pure fantasy.
In such cases, how can one free oneself from this influence? Do
so-called “exorcisms” have any power to free one from the
influences of negative spirits?
We have said it before. If there are any negative spirits bothering
us, it is usually a reflection of the fact that we have, by our
attitude, allowed them to enter. A positive change of attitude,
that is, by the abandonment of bad habits generated by
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selfishness, will free us from that influence, and not by the practice
of any particular spell or ritual, such as what you call exorcism,
which, apart from being useless, is also ridiculous.
But isn’t it true that some of these psychics are correct in their
predictions?
In most cases, no. The appearance of success comes from the
fact that the supposed psychics act with cunning, and know how
to flatter the client, at the same time that they know how to
extract the necessary information to be able to respond and tell
the clients what they want to hear. And a satisfied client is a fixed
client who will gladly pay the price of the session again. Who can
believe that their destiny or future can be written in cards thrown
at random? Will it not happen that if the cards are thrown again
after shuffling them again, some different cards will appear and
in a different order? Does this mean that their future will then be
different? Use your common sense and you will realize that tarot,
for example, is nothing more than a game. Anyone who thinks
that by casting cards one can tell the future or penetrate the past
is like someone who thinks he is an economist because he plays
Monopoly well, or a pilot because he can play airplane games
well. Do not mix games with spirituality, nor give credibility to that
which has no foundation. All this is not spirituality, and if you are
not aware of it, you can mix lies with truths and confuse spirituality
with tricks.
What about the minority of cases where they are correct and
what they say is known to be true? For example, when they give
some details of one’s life that are true, what is the explanation?
It is true that some of these people have the gift of mediumship,
but they use it incorrectly, for mediumship is a spiritual gift not to
be used vainly or for profit, much less as a profession. Some less
advanced spirits join them because they find it amusing to see
the reactions of their clients when they get something right about
their past. But if they are correct, it is not because of what they
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see in the cards, but because these spirits give them some
information that is true in order to gain the trust of the client, which
does not mean that everything they are told is true. There are also
mediums who have no bad faith in what they are doing, but
because of their ignorance they have allowed themselves to be
carried away by the selfishness of the world and have mixed their
true ability with earthly learned practices. In these cases they
often receive assistance from some spirits, who, though not very
advanced, have no evil intention.
What is your opinion about astrology, that is, the influence of the
stars on people’s lives, and about horoscopes and astrological
charts? Is it true that by knowing the date and time of a person’s
birth, one can predict personality traits or events that will happen
in their life?
It is true that all beings in creation are interconnected and that
the stars possess an energetic aura that influences the other stars
and the beings that inhabit them. It is also true that their influence
becomes more intense the closer one is to them, just as the
gravitational force is felt to a greater or lesser extent depending
on how close or far away one is from the Earth. It is also true that
certain astral influences may be more or less favorable for certain
spiritual work and, knowing this, advanced spirits may choose
certain times more favorable for certain work on the spiritual
plane. But know that these are only influences, not
determinations. The marathon runner always desires a pleasant
temperature and moderate humidity for competition, for he
knows that these are the conditions best suited to achieve a
good time. But it is not favorable weather that makes him a good
marathon runner, nor will unfavorable weather make him a bad
marathon runner. The influence is restricted to modulating his
performance. So it is with astrological influences. The spirit who is
advanced will be so regardless of the position of the stars at the
time of his birth, and the spirit who is not advanced will not be so
regardless of the position of the stars at the time of his birth, nor
will a favorable position of the stars make him an advanced spirit.
Who can think that a spirit who is soon to incarnate will have a
different life or personality because he is born two weeks earlier
or later? Have we not already said that the personality and
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spiritual advancement of that being is the fruit of his spiritual
learning gained in innumerable incarnations? Or how can we
think that the events of his life are predetermined by the date of
his birth, when we are saying that the trials are chosen and
prepared for before incarnation by free choice and that it is up
to his will and freedom to overcome them or not? Be clear about
one thing: the future is not written. If the future of the human
being were decided by the date of his birth, where would free
will be then? If you focus too much on what is incidental, you will
miss much of what is important.
Well, let’s talk about the second commandment. You shall not
take God’s name in vain. What do you have to say about this
one?
This is in Deuteronomy, though mistranslated. The literal translation
of the Hebrew is “you shall not use God’s name to deceive”.
Therefore, the problem with this commandment is not the
commandment itself, which is correct, but the interpretation that
has been made of its meaning, which has to do with the
alteration of the translation of the original Hebrew. We have
discussed this before, but we will discuss it in greater depth here,
because it is quite important. Many people believe that “not to
take God’s name in vain” means that they are not to use God’s
name in crude expressions, otherwise very common in popular
language. They take great offence when they hear someone
uttering them, without thinking that the speaker is not even
thinking about the meaning of the phrase they have just uttered.
They consider it to be an offense to God, when in fact these
expressions, although they manifest vulgarity and tactlessness,
are harmless and have no spiritual consequence whatsoever.
However, the true meaning of this commandment is “Thou shalt
not use the name of God to justify selfish purposes”.
A common practice of mankind has been and is to violate this
commandment. In the name of God the greatest atrocities have
been committed. These range from sacrifices of human beings in
rituals to divinity, “the slaughter of infidels”, “religious” wars or
Crusades, forced evangelizations, persecutions, tortures and
murders of “heretics”, to the exploitation of human beings to
enrich religious power elites and the manipulation of religious
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beliefs to take advantage of the faithful or to generate discord
and strife among humans. These are all very harmful selfish
purposes that humans have committed, in which they have used
the name of God. This is what is really serious and with dire
consequences on a spiritual level. And that is the deception, to
make the world believe that it is God who commanded them to
do all this, when it is all the fruit of their selfishness. It is intolerable
that even in their own sacred scriptures, people are led to believe
that God commanded the people of Israel to commit genocide
against other peoples, or that God himself, or Moses, who is
considered to be sent by God, sent plagues that caused the
death of the firstborn of Egypt in order to force Pharaoh to free
the people of Israel. If this were so, we would have to admit that
God and Moses behaved with the same cruelty and disregard
for life as any of mankind’s hitmen, murderers and genocidaires.
Although it’s a digression from the subject, I got curious when you
spoke of Moses and Pharaoh. If that’s not how it happened, what
actually happened? Because this thing about the plagues of
Egypt is given as an absolute truth within religion.
It happened that Moses convinced the Pharaoh of Egypt to let
the Hebrews go, for at that time they had a good relationship.
And what happened next? The Bible says that it was Moses, with
the help of divine power, who parted the waters of the Red Sea
for the Hebrew people to pass through and then let them fall on
the Egyptians, who drowned.
That is not how it happened. First, it is not true that Moses parted
the waters. The route that Moses had mapped out involved
passing through an area that is normally under water, but which
occasionally, due to the effects of weather and tides, temporarily
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lowered in level to allow passage through certain places. This was
known to Moses’ advisors, who informed him when it was going
to happen. They simply waited for the lowering of the tide to pack
up and leave. Even the Pharaoh’s workmen worked to prepare
the areas of passage. By the time the pursuers, who were several
days behind schedule, reached this point, the tide had already
begun to rise. It was obvious that if they entered this area the tide
would catch them. If they had used common sense they would
not have crossed. What simply happened is that the tide rose
further as they crossed and they drowned. You see, there was
nothing supernatural about what happened. They did not die
because of God’s wrath, as people have been led to believe.
They died out of their own anger, because they were more driven
by the desire to overtake the Hebrews and wipe them out than
by the common sense of preserving their own lives.
Well, there are people who say that their aim is not to get rich, but
that having found their vocation in the spiritual, they want to
devote themselves fully to it, so they have no time for other work
and, as they need to support themselves with something to live
on, they need to get paid for what they do spiritually. What do
you have to say to this?
Who told them that they were exempted from material work? If
spiritual evolution concerned everyone and everyone made the
decision to give up their work to devote themselves to “the
spiritual”, what would the world be living on? Many people today
believe that their spiritual transformation has to do with giving up
material work and devoting themselves exclusively to what they
call spiritual work. In the absence of income from material work,
they believe they are justified in charging for transmitting
knowledge or giving advice on the spiritual, but this is not so.
Spiritual evolution is fully compatible with material work, and no
one is exempted from it, except for reasons of illness, old age, or
physical or mental incapacity. Do not use spirituality to evade the
responsibilities of life as an incarnate, such as work, for he who
evades work by claiming that he is already working spiritually,
reflects laziness and convenience, not spiritual elevation. It is
necessary for everyone to work in order to survive, and everyone
has the right to receive fair remuneration for it. What is not right is
to make the spiritual a material profession.
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Are you telling me that from a spiritual point of view it is wrong for
spirituality to be professionalized?
Yes, it is wrong. The professionalization of spirituality, as you call it,
is what has brought religion and priesthood into existence. The
priests have believed and have made people believe that by
doing a supposed spiritual work (which in reality is not such either,
because dedicating time to ritualism and worship is spiritually
useless work), they were exempt from material work, and that to
maintain themselves they needed the believers or faithful to
contribute the money that they were not able to earn. I repeat,
no one should think oneself exempted from material work in order
to devote oneself exclusively to spiritual work.
But the Catholic Church bases the need to do things this way on
the example of Jesus and his apostles.
In what example? Jesus was the son of a carpenter and worked
in his father’s carpenter shop while he lived there. While it is true
that when he began his intense mission he did not have time to
be a carpenter, he never charged anything for the spiritual or
asked anyone to support him. Neither did any of the apostles.
Each one contributed what they had, and none of them failed
to take care of their family and work obligations, since they
combined their material work with their spiritual work. Notice that
none of the apostles were Jewish priests, the only ones who did
not work. While they were alive, they never structured themselves
as a church or proclaimed themselves priests, nor did they ask
anyone to support them. They simply lived humbly and shared
what they had. If the Hebrew priests were so bitter towards Jesus
and his followers, it was precisely because, as a result of his
preaching, many people stopped coming to the temple to make
animal sacrifices, which was the main source of income for the
Jewish clergy.
What has the Church, in this case the Catholic Church, done
wrong to become almost the same as the Hebrew Church,
contrary to what its founders did and preached?
We have already said that Jesus and his apostles did not build
any church, nor did they have any intention of doing so. It was
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others who came later who, misusing the spiritual message that
their predecessors passed on to them, created such an institution.
Even in the way you ask questions, the importance you attach to
religious institutions is evident, for you speak of them as if they had
a life of their own. Keep in mind that churches do not really exist,
for they have no conscience and no will of their own. Therefore,
they do neither good nor evil. They are only material structures
created and run by individual human beings, even though these
may change from age to age. Fortunately, the brevity of physical
life prevents them from perpetuating their power beyond a few
decades. Better question, what have human beings done to
transform the true spiritual message, which was given to them to
be used for their spiritual growth, into just the opposite, that is, into
a doctrine that turns them into slaves, that overrides their will and
freedom, that fosters exploitation, fanaticism and inequality
among human beings? The Church has been conceived,
created and perpetuated over time by spirits driven by their
selfishness. In reality, it was simply a reconversion of previous forms
of oppression that took control by force of a spiritual movement
that got out of their hands. And little by little they succeeded.
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Any advice on how to prevent this from happening again in the
future?
Do not group yourselves together under any group name.
Because human beings have an immediate tendency to
distinguish between those who belong to their group and those
who do not, to favor those who belong to their group and to
discriminate against the rest, be it for reasons of religious beliefs,
politics or patriotism. This is collectively selfish behavior. One of the
consequences that knowledge of spiritual reality should bring is
the discovery that all human beings are brothers and sisters.
Labelling one or the other only leads to differences, which in time
are used as an excuse to provoke discord and strife.
But is it not the case that by mixing with the world, unity of action
is dispersed and there is a risk of catching bad spiritual habits?
Did not the early Christians, and even before them the Essenes,
group themselves together in communities isolated from the rest?
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If the early Christians or the Essenes took refuge in secluded
places in the cities of their time, it was to save their lives because
of the continual persecution to which they were subjected, and
not out of a desire to separate themselves from society. There is
nothing wrong in seeking association with people who pursue the
same ideal, but this should not be an argument for separating
oneself from the rest, nor for excluding those who do not share
the same ideals or beliefs. Those who are clear about their
convictions are not easily swayed by those of others, and if they
are, it is because they were not so clear. On the other hand, there
is nothing wrong with getting to know other beliefs and cultures,
since this enriches the human being and allows him to have more
information to form his own ideas and beliefs. The person who is
Catholic because he is born in a Catholic country, or the person
who is Muslim because he is born in a Muslim country, has not
freely chosen his belief, since he had only one option to choose
from.
But I understand that the person who raises the money often thinks
that his or her cause is a noble one. What is a noble cause for
some people may be a useless cause for others. How can we
distinguish one from the other? For example, some people may
consider it a noble cause to build a place of worship or to restore
an old church, while for others it may be a useless cause.
Helping the needy is a noble cause. Those that contribute
nothing to the elimination of inequalities and injustices, and which
are not aimed at helping the needy, are selfish causes. Let each
person look into their conscience to see what it is that moves
them when they ask others for money, because then they will
know if what moves them is a selfish ideal or not, because
although we can deceive others, we cannot deceive our own
conscience. The Catholic Church is a multi-millionaire and does
not need collections to restore cathedrals or make a new
building for worship, although if it gets others to foot the bill for its
house it will be very satisfied.
Let’s look at the fourth commandment: You shall honor your father
and mother. What do you have to say about this one?
This commandment was intended to protect the elderly. Keep in
mind that at that time there were no social security or retirement
systems to protect the elderly. Governments did nothing to
protect the dispossessed and weak, and therefore there was no
protection for the elderly either. Their only option for protection
was in the family, that is, that the children, once they became
adults, should take over the maintenance of the elderly, who
were no longer in a position to look after themselves.
But this commandment has also been perverted in its meaning
because mankind has transformed something that was positive,
namely respect and care for the parents, into the obligation of
the children to submit to the will of the parents. Under the
umbrella of this commandment, parents have been given the
right of ownership over their children, and many unscrupulous
people have tyrannized their children, turning them into slaves,
controlling and dominating their lives, bending the will of their
children by mistreatment, humiliation or manipulation, violating
their free will from their earliest childhood, as when marriages
were arranged for children against their will, and thus
condemning them to a life of unhappiness. They believed they
had a divine right to do so. That is why it is in strongly religious
societies that the dominance of parents over their children’s lives
is most evident, and it is not surprising that children, when they
grow up and find the strength to break their chains, often want
nothing to do with their parents. It is then that they complain
piteously that their children have abandoned them and say “I
have done so much for them... and look how they repay me”,
when in reality they are only reaping the fruits of their bad sowing.
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That is why I tell you that it is not only the father and mother who
must be “honored”, but that understanding, respect and
affection must be extended to the whole family, grandparents,
fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters, children and grandchildren,
especially the children, because they are the weakest. Children
are the most vulnerable and defenseless when they are young,
and should therefore be treated with the greatest understanding,
affection and respect. Children should never be beaten or
humiliated. We have already spoken about the love of children
in depth before, because it is so important. Therefore, understand
this commandment in a broader sense, show love, respect and
understanding to all those close to you with whom you share your
life, especially the most vulnerable, which are children.
Let us now turn to the fifth commandment, which is “Thou shalt not
kill”.
This commandment could not be clearer. This commandment is
preserved as it was given, by the spirit world. There is no room for
interpretation. Not to kill is not to kill, not to take life. We know that
the spirit is immortal and, fortunately, nothing human beings can
do is going to end that immortal life. The only thing we can do is
to interrupt a physical life. But physical life is one of the gifts that
the spirit world gives to the spirit. Physical life is the stage where
the spirit is tested in that which it has learned in the spiritual world.
The spirit needs physical life to evolve as much as the body needs
the air it breathes to live. Hence there is an instinct, the instinct of
survival, which programs living beings to preserve life for
themselves and their offspring even before they are aware of
their own existence. By taking life, the opportunity for a being to
evolve is being taken away, and this is a very negative thing from
a spiritual point of view. Therefore, as long as this simple but
fundamental commandment is not respected, terrestrial
humanity cannot be considered sufficiently prepared to make
the evolutionary leap to which it aspires.
Well, I don’t think there is a penal code in the world that does not
condemn murder.
That is true. But it seems that human beings make distinctions
between some deaths and others. Some lives seem more
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important to them than others and they legitimize murder in many
cases.
But often those who go to war are not aware of the harm they are
doing, but are convinced that they are doing something good,
such as defending their homeland, their ideals or their religious
beliefs.
They deceived themselves or are deceived. There is no
justification for the killing of human beings, no homelands, no
religions, no ideologies. Therefore, there is no such thing as Holy
War. It is an invention of human beings to want to put God in the
middle to justify their lust for power and wealth, and to convince
others through fanaticism to agree to become the executioners
of their brothers. Thou shalt neither promote war nor participate
in it, for there is no justification for it.
I would also like to get your opinion on the death penalty, since
in many countries on earth it is considered a just form of
punishment for the most serious crimes.
The death penalty, wherever it comes from, for whatever reason,
is infamous, atrocious, horrible, repulsive and spiritually
repugnant. With what deep sadness do we contemplate that it
is precisely those states that presume to be the most religious and
God-believing that most assiduously apply the death penalty as
a punishment for criminals. How is one better than a murderer if
the representatives of justice are equal to the condemned when
they carry out a punishment equal to the crime committed? In
some even crueler countries, the death penalty is even applied
for minor offences, even though some of them are not punishable
from a spiritual point of view, such as when women who have
been unfaithful to their husbands are executed, even though
most of them have been forced to marry someone they did not
love.
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This commandment would also cover arranged marriages, since
one or both spouses, usually the woman, are forced into
unwanted relations. This means that no one can be forced to
engage in unwanted sexual relations, either inside or outside
marriage.
Bear in mind that at that time the rights of women and children
(especially girls) were virtually non-existent. They were treated
little better than cattle. From their earliest childhood they were
traded, especially those who belonged to the lower classes. They
were bought and sold as slaves and prostitutes, to satisfy the base
instincts of those who could pay. Abduction of women and rape
were the order of the day. In wars, they were often considered as
spoils of war, raped by soldiers, and then forced into prostitution
and slavery.
Arranged marriages were also the order of the day. The families
themselves considered it good business if they could marry off
one of their daughters to someone with money and power.
Marriages of girls to adult or elderly men or between boys and
girls for parental interests were very common. Practically we
could say that more than 90% of the marriages were decided
without the weaker spouse being involved in this decision, as they
were decisions made by the parents when the children were still
children or not even born. Powerful and ambitious people used
marriage as a way to accumulate more wealth or power, to
annex neighboring domains, or simply to satisfy the whim of
sexually possessing whomever they pleased. Polygamy for men
was normal and a sign of power and wealth, and was well
regarded. Imagine the suffering of all those women and girls
subjected to such extreme abuse and humiliation. The intention
of this commandment was to put a stop to all those abuses. But
human selfishness took it upon itself to pervert this commandment
and made the victim the executioner and the executioner the
victim, for from very early on the woman forced into prostitution
was punished, and not the pimp, the rapist or the forced
“husband”, or the parents who negotiate with the lives of their
daughters, who are the ones who prostitute and break the
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According to what you have said, what would be the status of the
indissolubility of marriage, so extolled by the Church?
We have already said it before. The prolongation of a couple’s
relationship, if there are strong feelings within the couple, will
happen spontaneously, whether or not there is a signed marriage
contract. But it cannot be forced, as this would be a violation of
free will. Therefore, the indissolubility of marriage is not a divine
law, but a human law and does not come from Moses or Jesus.
In fact, it is a rule that was introduced more than a thousand
years after Jesus came to earth. If you look back in your history
you will see that divorce was in force during the reign of all the
Christian Roman emperors. Civil law at the time of the Christian
emperors permitted remarriage after divorce. It was also in force
in all the states that originated after the fragmentation of the
Roman Empire. It was Pope Gregory IX (1227-1241) who, out of
enmity towards the emperors and kings of the time, seeing that
they were in the habit of changing their wives frequently,
imposed indissoluble marriage in the Christian kingdoms by
decree.
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Since we are talking about the commandment “Thou shalt not
commit prostitution”, I would like to get your opinion on
prostitution, from a spiritual point of view.
Prostitution is a reflection of the little progress that exists with
regard to the development of feelings, for an advanced spirit
cannot conceive of having a sexual relationship without love,
much less without mutual desire between the partners. He who
satisfies himself with the sexuality of prostitution reflects poverty of
feeling and the predominance of instinct over feeling and
sensibility.
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the way your world is, where there is a great demand for the
satisfaction of the rather primitive sexual instinct and a lack of
respect for free will, would not serve to eradicate it. Rather, it
would result in an increase in rape and sexual abuse and in
prostitution going underground. On the face of it, people who
voluntarily engage in prostitution in your world avoid much rape
and sexual abuse, since they voluntarily satisfy the baser instincts
of many low spirits, who in the absence of such a possibility would
seek sexual gratification by force. Therefore, the eradication of
prostitution in your world cannot be brought about by force, but
will happen when human beings increase their sensitivity
sufficiently so that sexual desire is transformed from the
satisfaction of a biological instinct into the expression of feelings
of love for a partner. And for all this to happen, human beings
must be able to have freedom of feeling and freedom with
regard to their sexuality. Then, sexual relations will be natural and
not a business or a reason for exploitation.
I think this is very nice but very utopian. I think there should be
more concrete measures.
There is no recipe book of measures to be taken, if that is what
you are asking me to do, because everything depends on the
human being’s intention and willingness to renounce selfishness
and a greater disposition towards brotherly love and sharing.
Without such a predisposition every effort would be futile. There
should be a desire on the part of the majority of people to bring
about the changes that will lead to a society based on love, a
willingness to cooperate actively in their implementation, for
nothing can be done by imposition or without the cooperation of
all in general. People should be elected as rulers who have a high
spiritual capacity, people who are loving, humble, of great
generosity, totally devoid of greed, avarice and ambition,
knowledgeable about the situation and willing to implement
measures that promote the common good, social justice and the
equitable redistribution of wealth. They would know what to do
at any given moment. One of the things that should be done
most urgently is to dismantle the whole economic system based
on usury and speculation and to enact fairer and more equitable
laws that pursue and prevent selfish practices from regaining
control of the world. Thus the commandment “Thou shalt not act
out of selfishness to harm others” would be completed as follows:
“Thou shalt promote the common good, social justice and the
equitable redistribution of wealth”.
The individual form is clear to me. But at the collective level, what
do you mean?
That humanity as a whole, in order to live together harmoniously,
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must respect justice and free will and put it into practice, and this
must be reflected in the way societies function, in forms of
government, laws, the economy, education and culture. And
although in theory some countries of the world enshrine the
principles of freedom and justice in their laws, in practice human
selfishness destroys them and they remain a dead letter.
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JESUS’ MISSION ON EARTH II
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among other things, he will come to dismantle all the falsehood
and error that the Church has created in his name, as he did two
thousand years ago with the Hebrew Church.
Why is it that when I asked you before about whether Jesus would
incarnate again on earth you answered me by talking about
Christ, and now when I ask you about Christ you answer me by
talking about Jesus, if they are two different entities?
Because you identify Jesus with the Christ. And it is true that when
Jesus incarnates again he will have the inspiration of the Christ.
But it is also true that the Christ can inspire other beings of great
evolution when it is necessary for them to incarnate again to
continue the work of spiritual evolution.
I understand from your words that the Christ has inspired beings
other than Jesus.
Of course.
And can this Christ inspire less evolved beings, even if the
incarnation of the Messiah has not taken place?
Of course, for the Christ in particular, and advanced spiritual
beings in general, are not limited to inspiring only one being at
any one time, but all beings who act out of unconditional love,
even if they are not of such a high level as Jesus. Whether the
connection with the Christ and other evolutionarily advanced
entities is more or less intense will depend on the degree of
evolution of the incarnated being. Many desire to be “chosen”
in order to feel important, and appear to want to love, but are
unwilling to give up their selfishness. The spiritual world helps those
who wish to advance on the path of love. But one who acts out
of selfishness cannot expect the advanced spiritual entities to
second him in his goals. The choice, therefore, is one’s own, and
it is a choice between selfishness and love. Depending on which
you choose, you will attract one influence or the other.
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of you exist, with your own will and individuality. It is therefore
much more than a state of consciousness, for a state of
consciousness is not a being, but a manifestation of a being.
Certainly the connection of a human being with the Christ allows
the human being to expand his consciousness to far greater limits
than he could possibly encompass on his own, and being under
the inspiration of this super-evolved being allows him to act with
far greater clarity, courage and decisiveness in pursuit of his
mission than if he had only his own capacity.
And why, if Jesus was not the direct incarnation of God or the
Christ, did he say of himself I am the Way, the Truth and the Life?
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Jesus never uttered that phrase as you know it, for he could not
personalize to himself a message that was universal. It is a
simplification of the following message: I came to show you, as
an envoy from the spirit world, the way of spiritual evolution, the
truth of the spirit world and what the life of the spirit really is.
You said that Jesus had come more times, do you mean that
Jesus has incarnated more times in the past, before coming in the
personality of Jesus of Nazareth?
Of course. He was previously incarnated on Earth, in times of
antiquity that your official history neither records nor admits.
So, if Jesus did not come to redeem our sins, is Jesus the Savior
announced in the Old Testament or not?
Jesus is indeed the envoy announced in the Old Testament.
Whether he came for the purpose for which the Catholic Church
has led you to believe, or for which the people of Israel expected
him, is another matter. Israel expected a political king, like their
King David, who would deliver them from foreign rule and make
them a conquering people. But Jesus did not come for that
purpose. His mission was to all mankind, not as a material ruler,
but as a messenger of God, a conveyor of the truth of the spirit
world, who came to lead confused humanity out of darkness, lost
in misunderstood, absurd and erroneous beliefs. He came to
show the true path of spiritual evolution to a humanity utterly
confused as to its concept of God and human evolution, and
totally trapped in selfishness.
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None of those you mentioned was Jesus. But they were
messengers of God, that is, envoys from the spirit world, with the
same mission as Jesus. They all served the same cause and their
work was more or less fruitful, according to the receptiveness of
the mentalities of the people among whom they incarnated.
Could we then say that Jesus and Buddha are the most evolved
beings ever to have been on planet Earth?
Of those you know, yes.
But isn’t it true that the Jewish people rejected Jesus because
they saw his ideas as contrary to the law of Moses?
Not the entire Jewish people. It was the Hebrew clergy and those
who were influenced by them. And it was not Jesus’ ideas that
were contrary to the law of Moses, but to the laws that the
Hebrew clergy had established for the people, using Moses as a
cover. Therefore, he did not come to abolish the law of Moses,
but to show it again as it was originally given, stripped of the lies
and manipulations to which it had been subjected, and to fulfil it.
Let’s go back to Jesus. Was the last time Jesus was incarnated on
earth two thousand years ago or has he come some more times
since then without us recognizing him?
He last incarnated as Jesus 2000 years ago and has not
incarnated on Earth since.
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Is Jesus currently incarnated on Earth?
No. Not yet. But it won’t be long now.
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develop further their own capacity to love, and to educate in
love those who know less of it by their example.
As the “educating” spirit progresses, its missions take on greater
depth. As the less advanced spirits also evolve as a result of this
work, the number of spirits who understand more deeply the
meaning of the spiritual message and who choose to put it into
practice increases, and they themselves also become
transmitters of the message. With each wave of spiritualization,
more and more spirits progressively join the evolutionary
bandwagon, and this increases the number of advanced spirits.
Therefore, the incarnation of more advanced spirits is a reflection
of the increasing spiritual level of humanity.
What you just said about more advanced spirits being incarnated
brings to mind a passage in the Gospels where Jesus supposedly
says: “Greater things than I will you do!” You will agree with me in
acknowledging that to this day, those he did have not been
equaled by anyone and two thousand years have passed. Was
Jesus wrong in saying this or is this statement also misunderstood?
He is making reference here to something we have said before,
and that is that when human beings evolve sufficiently, they will
be able to reach the level of evolution that Jesus had when he
incarnated on this planet. And since there is no limit to evolution,
they will also be able to achieve higher levels of evolution. This
means that in that state of evolution they will have the same or
greater capacities than Jesus had when he incarnated on this
planet. If there is still no one on your planet who manifests as great
a capacity to love as Jesus did, it is because there has not yet
been enough time for even the most evolved beings on your
world to have reached that level. Although it may mean a long
time to you, spiritually speaking 2000 years is a short space of time.
So neither was he wrong, nor is the message manipulated, it is just
that the time has not yet come for that statement to be fulfilled.
And if he does not exist, what is the meaning of this word used in
Revelation, or is it just another manipulation of the scriptures?
The evangelist saw in the events of the future that there was great
selfishness in humanity, that it was governed by selfish values
contrary to love. In addition, part of the message was given in
encrypted form so that it would be more difficult to manipulate it
later. In this context, the Antichrist is a symbolic figure,
representing the selfish, ambitious and ruthless facet of the
unevolved human being, who as a consequence acts in a way
that causes great harm to his fellow human beings. It is selfishness
personified. And the reign of the Antichrist represents the world
ruled by selfishness. If we assume that the message of Christ is
unconditional love, the antichrist is one who acts contrary to
Christ, that is, who is strongly opposed to love.
So were the likes of Nero, Napoleon and Hitler, who did so much
damage to humanity, the Antichrist or not?
The historical figures you mention who have been identified with
the antichrist were extremely selfish people who, driven by
ambition and the desire for power, have caused great harm to
humanity. But there have been many like them in history, there
are and there will continue to be as long as selfishness reigns
supreme in the world. What you call them does not make them
better or worse, though perhaps more important and more
terrifying in the eyes of the world.
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revealed it to the world. It is the selfishness of mankind, especially
those who wield the material power of the world, that keeps the
revelations of the spiritual world under lock and key and does not
want to make them known for fear of being exposed. In any
case, do not rack your brains over it, for what was said there has
already been revealed in other ways.
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THE FAREWELL
After me, the bleachers began to fill with other people who were
also accompanied like me. I understood that those people were
incarnate like me, and I deduced from the way they were
dressed, in robes, and from the light they gave off, that they were
their spirit guides. They sat down as I did while the spirit guides, like
Isaías, moved to the center, forming a circle around the stone
stand. They all held hands. At a certain point the light in the room
dimmed to almost extinct. Then we began to see how the quartz
crystal gradually lit up, and suddenly we saw how the light from
the crystal hit the ceiling and activated some unknown
mechanism that made the whole center of the circle light up, as
if forming a kind of luminous cylinder. Then the luminous cylinder
expanded until it encompassed all of us in the room, as if it were
putting us inside. “DON’T BE AFRAID, NOTHING CAN HAPPEN TO
YOU. PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO SEE” - we
could hear in our minds. Little by little the light faded and we
began to see images. It was like a 3D movie but much more real,
because it was as if we were inside, with total realism. The images
were so perfect that I would have said I was really in that place.
We started to see men who looked like politicians making
speeches in front of a crowd of people and the crowd was
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cheering and roaring. Although I couldn’t understand the words,
I could perceive the thoughts. The politicians were obeying the
orders of other beings whose physiognomy we did not see, but
who were dark and who transmitted streams of darkness to the
politicians who were speaking. They were inciting them to wage
war. As the politicians spoke, the stream of darkness spread like a
fog over the audience and penetrated them in such a way that
they were as if impregnated with this dark fog. I felt a great
current of fear, hatred and fanaticism that had a deep impact
on me. Then the images disappeared and other images
appeared where we saw armies parading. Then we began to
see images of planes, tanks, warships, missile launchers in full
activity. We saw soldiers with machine guns getting ready for
action. Then we began to see bombs falling and explosions
destroying everything in their path. We saw how so many people
died, men, women and children, some riddled with bullets, others
blown up by bomb blasts, others burned. We also saw how
soldiers took women and raped them without any regard and
then killed them without any contemplation. We saw prisoners
beaten and tortured to death. Cities, towns, villages, fields totally
destroyed, lots of corpses scattered everywhere. It was the most
horrible thing I have ever seen in my life because it was
happening as if I was there. I was in shock, we all were. At one
point it was as if we were suddenly ascending in an aircraft and
we saw all the destruction from above. We started seeing missiles
in the sky and we saw what was happening when one of the
missiles hit a very big city. There was a huge roar, at the same time
as a blast wave of fire was spreading out at high speed and
sweeping everything away with an impressive destructive power.
A huge cloud of gigantic dust was formed. I can’t estimate the
extent of it, but it was enormous. In a moment we descended
back down to ground level at quite a distance from where the
bomb had exploded. I saw the shape of the cloud. It was similar
to the mushroom cloud of the Hiroshima and Nagasaki atomic
bomb explosions, but the feeling was that they were much more
powerful and destructive detonations. We saw several similar
atomic bombs explode in different places. The spectacle was
Dantesque. In some places there was nothing left standing.
Nothing. Everything completely razed to dust and ashes. In other
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places there were ruins where you could see mangled corpses
everywhere. In some places we could see emaciated, ragged
survivors wandering aimlessly, trying to flee the most devastated
areas. That vision passed. And then we began to see another
vision of a place where the earth was beginning to shake and
split open in many places. There were very strong earthquakes
that were shattering what little was left standing. Volcanoes also
formed in many places, and lava was flowing everywhere,
washing away everything on the surface of an already
devastated earth. At another time we experienced a much
greater rumbling, which I have no words to describe. The earth in
that place was sinking. We simultaneously saw images of different
places, all undergoing a similar cataclysm. The sinking of the land
caused gigantic waves to form in the surrounding seas, like
gigantic tsunamis that when they reached the coasts of the
continents that had not sunk, they swept everything away in a
huge, hard-to-determine expanse. The sudden contact of the
lava with the water caused an enormous evaporation of water.
The sky was completely covered with very thick clouds. Huge
storms and tempests were raging and the sunlight was no longer
visible. Then we moved further and further away from the earth’s
surface until we could see the entire earth sphere from space. It
looked bleak. We could no longer see the blue of the sea and
the brown and green of the continents, nor the white of the
clouds. We could see a sphere completely covered by a gray
and dense atmosphere, which prevented us from seeing the
surface. What a sadness to see what had been the fate of our
world! That was the end of the vision. The cylindrical screen
dwindled back to the centre of the room and then went out. The
light in the projection room became bright again. All of us in the
audience were in shock. We watched as one of the guides
approached the centre of the room and removed the quartz
crystal, replacing it with another. Before we had time to react,
the cylinder was reactivated in the same way as before, and
again the cylindrical screen of 3D images enveloped us. We saw
again the same politicians of before, the ones who made
speeches in favour of war, with the dark entities transmitting
negative influences to them. But this time they were doing it on
television sets. They were communicating through television the
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decision to go to war against other countries. But the people
reacted differently from the previous vision. They also formed
crowds, but this time it was not to support their warmongering
rulers, but to protest against them. The demonstrations were
massive. The rulers tried to quell the protests by ordering the army
and police to act against the people. But the soldiers and police
themselves refused to obey the orders to attack their fellow
citizens and joined the protest. We saw the fall of these rulers in
the face of the momentum of popular rebellions and how they
were arrested and imprisoned. This was happening
simultaneously in all the countries that were about to go to war.
We then saw the appearance of other people who conveyed
very different sensations from those of the politicians. They were
accompanied by luminous beings who transmitted luminous
flows to them, and they spread them over others. They exuded
humility, serenity. We saw how a halo of light spread from them
to the people, transmitting peace and love. These new leaders
decreed the cessation of all violent activity and formed a kind of
world congress to decide what the new direction for humanity
would be. We saw another vision where all the war machines
were dismantled and melted down, armies were dismantled and
all those who had contributed to bringing the world to the brink
of war were brought to trial. The vision disappeared. We were told
mentally that we were going to see the changes that had taken
place in the world after this decision, after a time that I could not
specify. Everything had changed for the better. We saw people
going about their daily activities. There were no wars, no conflicts,
no poverty, no inequalities. Humanity lived in harmony. You could
see people’s faces and they were happy. The vision ended, as
before, with an image of the Earth as seen from the outside. What
a contrast to the first vision, how beautiful it looked now,
compared to the previous vision! The luminous cylinder shrunk
back to the center of the ring and then went out. The lights came
on. I was extremely moved and excited. I looked at the others
and saw that they were also as impressed as I was. There had
been a lot of very strong and contradictory emotions in a very
short time. The guides dispersed from the circle they had formed
and rejoined their protégés. I could see them transmitting waves
of energy to help them recover from the impact of their
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experience. In a short time they had all disappeared from the
room. “IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO COME BACK TOO”. It was Isaías who
spoke to me. I felt a strong tug and a free fall that took me straight
into my body. However, I did not wake up immediately, but
remained in a state of paralysis.
-WHAT YOU HAVE SEEN ARE TWO DIFFERENT POSSIBILITIES FOR THE
FUTURE OF YOUR WORLD. THE FIRST IS THE FUTURE THAT IS POSSIBLE
IF HUMANITY IS DRIVEN BY SELFISHNESS AND THE SECOND IS THE
FUTURE THAT AWAITS IT IF IT CHOOSES LOVE.
-So none of that has happened yet, nor does it necessarily have
to happen. I mean I wouldn’t want the first possibility of the future
to happen.
-And there are more future possibilities, apart from the ones
we’ve seen?
-YES. WHAT YOU HAVE SEEN ARE THE NEGATIVE AND POSITIVE
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EXTREMES. THERE ARE INTERMEDIATE SITUATIONS. BUT BASICALLY
ALL THE POSSIBILITIES CONVERGE, IN A GREATER OR LESSER TIME
OF DEVELOPMENT, TOWARDS ONE OF THESE TWO. THESE ARE
THINGS THAT ARE NOT GOING TO HAPPEN OVERNIGHT. BUT IT’S
GOOD THAT YOU HAVE A LONGER-TERM PERSPECTIVE, BEYOND
THE DURATION OF AN INCARNATION.
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GOING TO COLLABORATE IN THIS DESTRUCTION, OR ON THE
CONTRARY, ARE YOU GOING TO COLLABORATE IN TRYING TO
PREVENT IT? BECAUSE IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOU, ON YOUR FREE
WILL. AT SOME POINT IN THIS OR OTHER LIVES, IT WILL BE UP TO YOU
TO CHOOSE WHICH SIDE YOU ARE ON. THE FATE OF THE WORLD IS
IN YOUR HANDS.
- IF I TELL YOU IT’S GOING WELL YOU MIGHT RELAX, AND IF I TELL
YOU IT’S GOING BADLY YOU MIGHT DESPAIR, HOW DO YOU THINK
IT’S GOING?
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-AND THERE ARE MANY OTHERS WHO PULL ONE WAY FOR A WHILE
AND THEN THE OTHER, DEPENDING ON WHAT SUITS THEM, HA, HA...
-I’M NOT JOKING. I’M JUST TRYING TO TAKE THE HEAT OFF THE
MATTER, BECAUSE I SENSE THAT YOU’RE SCARED AND SHOCKED
BY WHAT YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH. BUT YOU’LL GET OVER IT. WELL,
NOW IT’S TIME FOR ME TO SAY GOODBYE.
- IT’S TIME FOR ME TO GO HOME. I’M FINE HERE WITH YOU, BUT I’M
BETTER OFF THERE. DON’T WORRY. WE WILL SEE EACH OTHER
AGAIN SOON. LOVE, BROTHER. A HUG FOR ALL THE FAMILY. YOU
KNOW, OUR DEAR HUMANITY.
THE END
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FINAL CONSIDERATIONS BY THE AUTHORS.
It is our express wish that the message expressed through this work
may reach everyone in a completely free and disinterested way,
in line with the philosophy of unconditional love that we have set
out, that is, giving without expecting to receive anything in return.
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