Two books in one in a flip dos-Ã -dos format: The story of Aleksandar Hemonâs parentsâ immigration from Sarajevo to Canada and a book of short memories of the authorâs family, friends, and childhood in Sarajevo
In My Parents, Aleksandar Hemon tells the story of his parentsâ immigration to Canadaâof the lives that were upended by the war in Bosnia and siege of Sarajevo and the new lives his parents were forced to build. As ever with his work, he portrays both the perfect, intimate details (his...
A pair of memoirs bound as one volume, Aleksandar Hemonâs My Parents and This Does Not Belong to You explore the authorâs sense of identity, his homelandâs history, his parentsâ immigration, and his own coming-of-age in ârapturously poeticâ (Kirkus Reviews) prose.
While My Parents is an âardently precise and analyticalâ (Booklist) portait of his parents, This Does Not Belong to You is a âsometimes lively and sensual, sometimes bleakly ruminativeâ (Publishers Weekly) and impressionistic series of the authorâs boyhood recollections. The books are divided at the center by a collection of his personal family photographs.
Below, weâve compiled some of our favorite photographs from the book and installed them alongside some of our favorite lines for a wholly unique and optimally condensed experience of the Hemons and their storied lives.
When I was a boy, I wanted to be a historian.
For the world to exist there have to be objects, and inside those objects there has to be nothing, and inside that nothing there must be memories, and inside those memories there are snakes.
A memory, like a picture, is a model of reality.
Take this thing youâre reading. I couldâve assembled a different version of it from an alternative set of fragments; I couldâve been borne of different parts; I couldâve assembled someone else. I couldâve tried to kill my little sister and then pretend that I didnât know what I was doing because I was a little boy. I could have read a lot of books, including, repeatedly, The Paul Street Boys (Junaci Pavlove Ulice), which wouldâve led me to organize the boys in my building into a makeshift military unit that would fight a number of battles and wars against other, similar boys. I couldâve been a boy who listened to ABBA, watched them win the Eurovision contest with âWaterlooâ and had a long-lasting crush on Agnetha (the blonde). I couldâve had a different best friend, named Boris, who left for Belgrade in the sixth grade, and whom I once beat up out of jealousy, and whoâd visit his grandmother in the summer, which weâd spend playing chess and listening to the Stranglers. I couldâve made a different original decision and written all this in Bosnian, my mother tongue, which is both different and the same as srpskohrvatski ili hrvatskosrpski, and thereby avoid all the heartbreaking explanations of things that would beâto everyone who exists and existed within that worldâentirely self-evident and plain. I couldâve been a different person, someone who never hurt a fly, who would never hurt a fly. Instead, here we are, you and I.
If I remember, I know not only that I have lived but also that Iâm alive. Death takes place when you canât recall the moment that precedes the present moment. What were we just talking about? Time passes in sentences.
Only that which is difficult or impossible to remember is worth remembering. Only that which is hard or impossible to say is worth saying.
roÅ¡aâThe hole in the ground where you wanted to put your kliker so as to have power to eliminate others.
ponteâUsed when demanding of the other players that they throw their kliker toward the roÅ¡a, where yours is sitting, empowered, waiting to eliminate them.
hopaâThe last player who throws his kliker toward the roÅ¡a at the beginning of each game.
predhopaâThe player before the last one to throw.
slipciâDropping two klikers together to resolve a situation in which two klikers find themselves in the roÅ¡a, though that has to be agreed upon before the game.
There is more, but the list is beginning to look pathetic in its oblique nostalgia. I have reasons to believe that this particular vocabulary only made sense within my neighborhood in Sarajevo, that wouldâve been entirely foreign beyond it.
Home is a place where there is a void when youâre not there; home is what your body fills out. Nowadays we live elsewhere and otherwise, but there is still nobody in our place when we are not there. When I visit, thatâs where I stay. When Iâm there, Iâm not here. Here, there, wherever I may be, Iâm always absent some-where. Home is the fragrant nothing where I am not.
Visit The Guardian for an excerpt from My Parents: An Introduction / This Does Not Belong to You by Aleksandar Hemon.