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Sex Diaries

New York Magazine’s Sex Diaries series asks anonymous city dwellers to record a week in their sex lives — with comic, tragic, often sexy, and always revealing results. The column, which began in 2007, is the basis of a docuseries on HBO.

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The Magazine Editor Who Has Bad Sex With a Chef

 In this week’s story, a Los Angeles woman looking for a relationship goes out with an architect, a divorced guy, and a chef. By Alyssa Shelasky

The rest of the archive

  1. The 24-Year-Old Realtor Who Meets a Couple at a SaunaIn this week’s story, a woman has a threesome and tells the poly guy she’s seeing all about it.
  2. The Grad Student Hooking Up With a Stranger on a Ski TripIn this week’s story, a grad student tries to find a boyfriend before her 26th birthday.
  3. The Stay-at-Home Mom Whose Husband Just Had an AffairIn this week’s story, a woman hosts a dinner party with some single dads while her husband travels for work.
  4. The Woman Who Tells Her Date She’s Freezing Her EggsIn this week’s story, a creative director revisits an old flame while trying to sort out her feelings about starting a family.
  5. The Novelist Who Found Love at a Sex PartyIn this week’s story, a guy visiting New York invites a woman over for takeout and cuddles.
  6. The Social-Media Manager Who Has Slept With Only One PersonIn this week’s story, a woman meets a guy on Raya and has enjoyable sex for the first time in years.
  7. The 69 Best Sex Diaries of All TimeThese are the diaries that blew up our group texts, inspired an internet conspiracy or two, and still make us blush all these years later.
  8. The 9 Best Sex Diaries of 2024From a 43-year-old divorced dad who’s surprised by how wild his younger date is to a woman having a threesome with a married couple.
  9. The Advertising Exec Who Schedules Sex With Her HusbandIn this week’s story, a woman forgets her anniversary but makes up for it with oral.
  10. The Nail Tech Who Talks About Sex Too Much at WorkIn this week’s story, a woman in an open relationship goes on her weekly date and tells her colleagues all about it the next day.
  11. The Man Who’s Intimidated by the Women He’s Meeting on the AppsIn this week’s story, a 25-year-old architect starts a new job — and possibly a new relationship.
  12. The Woman Who Bails on a ThreesomeIn this week’s story, a real-estate agent copes with her election anxiety by having sex with a stranger and going on a date with a couple.
  13. The Lawyer Who Takes His Wife to a Sex PartyIn this week’s story, a man and his wife have sex with another couple — and have a threesome partner cancel on them.
  14. The Woman Who Meets a Guy at Her Neighborhood BarThis week’s sex diary.
  15. The 23-Year-Old Who Broke Off Her EngagementThis week’s sex diary.
  16. The Woman Getting Off in the Steam Room at the GymThis week’s sex diary.
  17. The Publicist Whose Date Doesn’t Want to Go Home With HerThis week’s sex diary.
  18. The 36-Year-Old Writer Sending His Ex a Very Long LetterThis week’s sex diary.
  19. The TV Writer Whose Lover Won’t Leave His GirlfriendThis week’s sex diary.
  20. The Woman Who Has Sex With Her Uber Driver in PortoThis week’s sex story.
  21. The Professor Dating a Guy Who’s 7 Years YoungerThis week’s sex diary.
  22. The 38-Year-Old Who’s Not Into Vanilla SexThis week’s sex diary.
  23. The 24-Year-Old Whose Boyfriend Wears a Dog Collar in BedThis week’s Sex Diary.
  24. The Musician Who Ghosts Three Dates in One WeekThis week’s sex diary.
  25. The Talent Agent Flying to L.A. for a Younger ActorThis week’s sex diary.
  26. The Woman Sneaking Out of Work to Have an AffairThis week’s sex diary.
  27. The Celibate 25-Year-Old Who Still Uses HingeThis week’s sex diary.
  28. The Divorced Business Owner Sleeping With a Younger ManThis week’s sex diary.
  29. The Queer College Student Having a Threesome Before Moving AwayThis week’s sex diary.
  30. The Woman Unsure If She’s on a Date or a Job InterviewThis week’s sex diary.
  31. The 35-Year-Old Looking for a Man Who Wants KidsThis week’s sex diary.
  32. The PR Exec Whose Date Has a Food FetishThis week’s sex diary.
  33. The Mom Having Men Over When Her Teenagers Aren’t HomeThis week’s sex diary.
  34. The Film Exec Distracted by Her Crushes at CannesThis week’s sex diary.
  35. The Divorced Dad Whose Date Is a Little Too Wild in BedThis week’s sex diary.
  36. The 50-Year-Old Fooling Around With a Polo Player in the HamptonsThis week’s sex diary.
  37. The Australian Guy Whose Date Is Into FeetThis week’s sex diary.
  38. The Woman Meeting Her Date at a BathhouseThis week’s “Sex Diary.”
  39. The Married Woman Who Sleeps With a Musician in MiamiThis week’s sex diary.
  40. The Freelance Journalist Meeting a Fling in CapriThis week’s sex diary.
  41. The Mom Dating an Ethically Nonmonogamous GuyThis week’s sex diary.
  42. The Painter Whose Long-Distance Boyfriend Has a New LoverThis week’s sex diary.
  43. The Woman Who Flies to Another City for Rebound SexThis week’s sex diary.
  44. The Real Estate Developer Having Great Sex With Her ExThis week’s sex diary.
  45. The Record Store Worker Questioning Non-MonogamyThis week’s sex diary.
  46. The Woman Falling for a Real-Life ‘Indiana Jones’This week’s sex diary.
  47. The Assistant Who Sleeps With a Guy in a Santa CostumeThis week’s sex diary.
  48. The Woman Who Has Sex for the First Time in 17 YearsThis week’s sex diary.
  49. The Woman Whose Mom Sends Her Money to Join a Dating AppThis week’s sex diary.
  50. The Nurse Whose Husband Wants Sex Every NightThis week’s sex diary.
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